I am 38 weeks along. My hubsand has not touched me in any sexual way in about 2 months. I know that a man has needs and I know how he is taking care of those needs. Why do I dwell on this? Why does it hurt my feelings so much? I feel so lonely and unattractive. I have hinted to him about how I feel and I have been blunt as I know how to be. I just do not understand why he is treating me like a disease. Ofcourse I am not the size 2 I once was but never the less I have only gained 55 pounds. I have read about this on some sites and I see alot of people say "try new things to spice it up " or " put on something sexy to make him notice you". Pardon me but I think he should be trying to seduce me so to say . Why must I do all the work pregnant or not? Anyone else have any advice on this topic?Thanks so much.
2007-02-20 10:08:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ok to the men folks who have made their stupid suggestions....give him head? Have you lost your damn minds? Why would I be pleasing him and getting nothing?
And to the moron who suggested it in the rear...I do not like things around or near my behind so NO. 55 pounds is alot to overlook? So is 2 inches but I bet your wife don't complain;)
2007-02-20 10:26:01 · update #1
i know how it was for me so this answer is personal experiance and what ive heard from other guys i know i found my wife extremely attractive while pregnant we had sex almost every night through out exept if i had a long day at work or she wasnt feeling to well actually having sex is what caused her to go into labor we did it the night before she went to the hospital but to me there is something about a pregnant women that is extremely sexy i think its the way they carry themselves or it could be a natural thing about it i dont know oh and she was a size 0 before about 110 lbs and she gained maybe 65-70 lbs now she wieghs about 150 and she is still the sexiest person ever but you might have to show him that its not going to hurt you or bother you hope i helped and congrats on the pregnancy
2007-02-20 10:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by milifis frikngret 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do not mean to be crass here - but maybe you should take care of yourself, if you get my drift. Chances are very good that if hubby knows that, he's going to want in on the action.
If you haven't actually talked to him about it, go ahead and tell him how you feel. If he hasn't figured out the pregnancy hormone thing by now - well, he's probably not a nice person anyway.
We had sex right up until the day I left for the hospital. It can be done, and it may or may not induce labor (it didn't help us; I had to be induced). At 38 weeks, who cares if it does?
2007-02-20 10:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband was the same way when I was pregnant both times. He just didn't touch me at all. Sex became less and less frequent to the point of almost stopping. I felt like a huge whale--I was pregnant with twins and gained about 70 pounds!
After it was all over and we were divorcing I asked him why he was so distant while I was pregnant. He answer was he was concerned for the health of me and our unborn. It was his first experience (mine too) with being pregnant and was uncomfortable and unsure of what he could and could not do sexually.
Although he didn't understand that it was just the comforting, loving touch that I missed most of all.
Boils down to -- he was just scared of everything. The pressure of responsibility was growing on him as I got bigger.
It will be okay!
2007-02-20 10:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is almost over. You have only 2 more weeks. He may be scared that he might hurt you or the baby. Don't take it personal. Most men don't know anything about pregnant women. I would try to print out some info on having sex while pregnant and leave in laying around for him to find. good luck, not much more time to go.
2007-02-20 10:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ok pregnant mama. Let's think for just a moment that daddy doesn't want to hurt mommy? Why does mommy have to think its her fault? My God size 2? Could he even see you before you got pregnant? Just kidding. I planned on being a sex therapist so I took all the courses on the subject. There are ways to have sex and not have to do missionary. If you need more obvious answers email me. But, if you do this, don't be surprised to wake up in labor, I did both times
2007-02-20 10:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing you must do is take care of "YOU" and Baby First! I believe he is somewhat cautious,do to fears about what he may think,and not really know.Dont worry you need to be worrying about you,not really HIS needs right now.You can have relations,but must be careful not to put yourself aside and get hurt,sex is alright but,to an extent.One thing for certain is,you wont stay that way too long. Best wishes.......
2007-02-20 10:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by Shamana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One word, honey.
Hormones.
Aren't they great? They make you react to things in ways that you wouldn't normally react.
You need to ask him why he hasn't touched you...is he scared of hurting the baby? Is he just uncomfortable with your changed body shape- or perhaps he thinks he is being sensitive to your needs by not presuring you for sex...men are strange creatures, just like women.
Have a chat about his feelings as well as yours.
Don't be subtle, come out and tell him straight about how you feel.
2007-02-20 10:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the back of his mind he might think that he's going to hurt the baby or cause more pain to you! Or even cause you to go into labor. Just remember, you wont be pregnant forever!
2007-02-20 10:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by Allie D 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him about it? He's probably afraid if you are intimate he'll hurt you or the baby. You are almost due - I really wouldn't worry about it - if you need more attention just ask him for it.
2007-02-20 10:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by Zabes 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie... you're pregnant... you're 38 weeks pregnant... you're gonna feel like crap now.
Just wait until the baby arrives... you'll be too busy to care that your husband is "taking care of himself"
2007-02-20 10:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋