How to know that somebody is gay!!?

Question

What traits and behavior do gay people have cause I think there is somebody in my class that is GAY!!! I need ur help!!

Answer 1

Gay people have the same traits and behaviors as everyone else. There are those who are more butch or effeminate than other gays, they tend to be more noticeable. But the vast majority of gay people have no distinguishing traits or behaviors. What goes on behind their closed doors is no more anyone's business than what goes on behind anyone's doors.

If they are comfortable about their sexuality all you'd have to do is ask or flirt with them if you are attracted to them in "that" way. In that case strike up a conversation, say hello etc. . . . gay people meet pretty much the same way straight people do.

They may be too young or confused about what they are feeling. Especially if they've been raised to believe their feelings are evil or perverted. Once they leave home or get away from harmful and/or wrong influences they'll be able to accept and understand themselves better.

Being gay isn't wrong or threatening . . . it's just different. Being afraid of those who are different is the root to all racism and hate crimes. Using the Bible or Christianity as a tool to act out your fears is a crime against God and the values He wants to instill in all of us.

Evolve or be left behind . . .

Answer 2

Look, scanning some of teh other answers, i have to say this. Asking him is not the way to go because if he is gay he could easily deny it. Also he might not be gay and that would make him feel uncomfortable. If he is gay then it is disrespectful of you to pry into his life and ask such an EXTREMELY personal question. I mean, no offense, but you probably dont know his situation. Is it really that direly important for you to know? What if his family is super religous and they would disown him for being gay? If he told you then he would have his life possibly ruined. I am not saying he should not come out ever but, it is something that he owns; its something that is his to choose when or when not to reveal. Sexuality isnt anyone else's business. Now that that is out of the way. There ARE certain signs that stereotypically gay people portray. These dont apply to all gays and they might apply to some straight people. so be cautious when going by these signs alone.

1. Gay people, men anyway, tend to use their hands when they talk making gestures as women do. They do it a lot more than straight men on average.

2. Gay men tend to talk faster and speak with a broader vocabulary than straight men. They also tend to say more and in longer sentences overrall.

3. They tend to hang around with girls a lot more than straight guys. If they are surrounded by both then they will most likely talk to the girl more. Or atleast include her in the conversation.

Remember: these are general behaviors and are not to be taken 100% of teh tiem as a tell. Keep in mind that if you discover that anyone is gay, it is their choice to tell people or not. It IS NOT your choice to blab. k?

Answer 3

There is no way of knowing. It's what's inside them that determines whether they're gay or straight, who they're attracted to. Everything else is just stereotyping and superficial. Why do you care if he's gay or not? He's a classmate first and maybe a friend second. Whether or not he's gay is much less important (unless he turns you on, of course). If you want to be friends, be friends, and then maybe after you get to know him a lot better you'll know if he's gay or not.

But please don't walk up to him and ask him. Do you want someone walking up to you in class and asking you how often you masturbate and how and whether you've done it yet today? That's the same thing. It's called a personal question and it's none of your business unless he chooses to tell you on his own.

Answer 4

Everyone knows someone who is gay. What difference does it make if someone in your class is gay? They aren't concerned about your sexual preference, why would you be interested in theirs. Gay people don't all have "traits", like certain dog breeds or anything. They're just people. You need to relax and realize that if you have a problem with someone being gay around you then perhaps you're worried about your own insecurities and you need to know that what ever your sexual preference is it's okay as long as it doesn't involve victimizing anyone (like children, animals, etc)

Answer 5

well to be honest there is no traits and behavior that really define gay people. i mean that there is no real way to tell if some one is gay or straight but there is the stereo-typically potraits of a gay man like flaming hair or bright, fashion sense but that also means he just just might have good taste. i guess the only real way to see if he is or not is to ask him.

Answer 6

Sometimes you can't tell. Some men just have characterisitics but really aren't gay. I wouldn't worry too much about this guy in your class unless he is bothering you. Even if he is gay it doesn't mean he's going to hit on you or try to make you feel uncomfortable. Just be nice to him because if he is gay he's still a person and has feelings.

Answer 7

There are no traits and behaviors shared by all gay people. Why do you care if your classmate is gay? Unless, you want to date that person, it is really none of your business.

Answer 8

There are not signs that someone is homosexual. Some of the most feminine guys in school turned out to be picked on for nothing. Their marriges and kids will attest to that. Kids can be such weiners when it comes to denigrating others who don't fit the mold. In later life the biggest troublemakers usually become losers. Think about that.

Answer 9

Just like everyone else, all gay people are different. It's not like there's some special way of figuring out if someone's homosexual or not. But what does it matter to you? You make it sound like they're a threat and you NEED to know their sexuality. FYI, it's really not your business, nor should it be a concern to you. No one likes a homophobe.

Answer 10

Firstly it doesn't matter if someone in your class is gay or not, why do you care.

There is no real way to tell if someone is gay, though they are stereotypical mannerisms that lots of gay people exhibit, a person showing many of these may be gay, or they may just be camp, you can't really tell.