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I really need help because I have an inexperience and so called immaturity problem. all of my friends have done things that i havn't yet and when they tell me, I am shocked and i might say something about it. they think that I am immature because I cant deal with it. Now they are saying that its getting so bad that they dont want to be around me. I am going to high school in the fall and i dont want to have this as a name. please help!!!! anything is appreciated.

2007-02-20 09:27:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style Other - Beauty & Style

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honey your not even in high school yet!
dont worry, if theyre doing thing that shock you and theyre not in high school these arent good people!

2007-02-20 09:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by Maddy G 4 · 0 0

First of all, your friends are ignorant and immature. They are trying too hard to grow up too fast. You all are still kids. You haven't even entered high school yet.

You being shocked isn't immaturity, it's called having morals. What have they done? Drugs? Unprotected sex? What? It would have been better if you specified.

In high school, there will be a lot more people and it's likely most of them won't even know you or them so it doesn't matter. Make new friends in high school.

There is a new term for young 'tweens' who dress provocatively and do those kind of 'mature' things... Prostitots. Look it up.

All in all, don't worry. If you want to stay friends with them, then do. Just learn to stay silent or just give neutral responses. Think about what you want to say before you do it, having a few moments to think before you speak is really helpful.

Take care of yourself and good luck. High school is really just a taste of the real world. High school never ends. In the business/working world, there will always be the shy kids, popular kids, jocks, conceited, and everything in between. Stereotypes and cliches exist for a reason, they are based on a bit of truth. Take care.

2007-02-20 09:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by loquaciousxleo 2 · 0 0

First, take it easy! If you are doing immature things then maybe you feel insecure; like, nervous & self-concious. Who doesn't really at your age?

So, my advice is to do some things that you are comfortable with & hopefully enjoy. And, let these flairs of immaturity kind of blow over. In one way, better safe than sorry. And, bragging rights don't seem worth that much after high school - feeling comfortable & getting thru it alright seems a lot more mature.

2007-02-20 10:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Most of my friends are older than me from a month to almost 2 years! I have a 15 year old friend and I am almost 2 years younger than her but I don't feel uncomfrotable with her. She's my best friend actually. Sounds to me like you should hang around people that act like you but are in your age group! Sometimes you have to chose to have fun around your friends or worry about what they think! If you don't think you can stop hanging around them for good(trust me I understand) then spend LESS time with them and either make new friends,or join a club, or do something! It'll keep your mind off them and you can find new people who you can act yourself around! Everyone matures differently! If your friends are in 8th grade or so and you're in say... 6th grade then yes of COURSE they're more mature than you and probably have experienced more in life! So jusst chill out and find out if you can figure out what the problem is! Maybe you can talk to your friends..? I don't know so just try to sort things out from everyone's advice
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2007-02-20 10:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by M 2 · 0 0

WAIT!! FIRST lets make sure what your so-called friends are telling you is SO important to have DONE!! Sex? Oral Sex? Any form of Sex? NO!! That's NOT immaturity THAT is SMART to NOT want ANYTHING to do with it UNTIL you are married!!! God agrees with me on that one in case you're wondering! If it's 'uncool' cause they've smoked cigarettes or worse and you haven't - BOOYA!! Good for you!! Thats ALSO called smart. Finding NEW friends would the SMARTEST thing you DID right now!! Good luck!

2007-02-20 09:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by curiousgeorgette 4 · 1 0

you don't have to do what they do to be mature. Sometimes it is the other way around. they need to grow up.
In the mean time. Just learn not to say anthing and just be the listener. If you don't want to even listen to it just say oh excuse me i will be right back go to the bathroom or something and come back when there done.

2007-02-20 09:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 0 0

The best way to mature is to do mature things. If what they're doing is bad, then do other good mature things that are also cool. They might even want to join you in those things. Be the leader, not the follower

2007-02-20 09:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by Teen Angel 2 · 1 0

Just dont act like a little kid mind your manners and act appropriate and dont overreact or throw a fit just say something nice about it, and you should be fine and also try to hang out wiht older kdis you will act somewhat more mature and just try to be a better person.

2007-02-20 09:33:08 · answer #8 · answered by coolliz2444 6 · 0 0

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2016-12-17 14:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

You have to learn to step out of your comfort zone. Say to yourself when they're sayin these things "They are NOT going to pressure me into doing these things myself, but I can at least grow up and be interested in it." Show your friends that you aren't immature. Do it to prove yourself to THEM.

2007-02-20 09:35:03 · answer #10 · answered by je suis mode 5 · 0 0

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