secret envy that i have towards my friend.?

Question

i've known my best friend for 12yrs, i've known him since we were 8yrs old and we're practicly brothers since were so close, but for the past two years i've been getting these serious feelings of envy towards him becuase he's in a serious relationship and i've never had been in a relationship at all. my envy became worst when he starts talking about her all the time and we hang out less and forget sometimes when we had something planned days or a week in adavnced i get stood up becuase he with her then tries to call me telling me he's sorry, he forgot. sometimes i don't even speak to him when he calls to hang out becuase my envy won't let me. just seeing them together makes me wish i had someone in my life. i feel like im being im being put on the back burner. how do i deal with this feeling before it gets really out of hand. i don't wanna lose the friendship over my envious ways.

Answer 1

Well, what you are feeling is totally normal. I don't think it is so much envy, as it is-hurt.

When people get involved romatically, yes, things do change. All of a sudden, long time friends do somewhat get the "back burner". However, it is still possible for you to stay friends, but maybe you won't see each other as much.

It also sounds as though he needs to remember what being a true friend is. Him simply "forgetting about your plans" is actually just kind of rude on his part. Whether or not he is dating now, forgetting plans that he made and not following through shouldn't be excused by dating someone. Bad behavior is bad behaviour.

Can you involve yourself in some other activities and with some other friends for now? That may not be your first choice, but atleast you won't be counting on him so much and won't get your feelings continually hurt.

Don't worry, one day you will be in a relationship and this experience will have taught you well. You will remember more at that time, about being a good friend, even if you are now "attached". Yes, maybe you won't see your friends as much, but you will also remember how important it is to still maintain the friendship.

Romantic relationships come and go, however,a good friend can be thier for a lifetime. Lets hope that your friend gets a reality check sometime soon and realizes that. Hopefully it won't be after his unfortunate break up when he really needs you, and sadly, you are too busy with the new life you have created since he had been too busy, too many times.

Answer 2

Yes, I think it's just coincidental, and each person is different. Besides, since there is more than the sun sign, people embody a number of different qualities. They may admire the next signs qualities if they don't already have them, but that doesn't mean that it will happen as a rule. I am a Libra, and if I admire someone, it's because they have earned the right to be admired, and they have done something amazing in my eyes. I have met people of all signs that I have had respect for, and some that I find simply pathetic. So yes, I like the qualities of Scorpio, but that doesn't mean that I envy them. I have enough placings in my chart that I have those qualities for myself.