kind of embassassing. but. sex hurts with my boyfriend. a lot. he is a LOT bigger than i have ever had before. and i havent had that much sex in the past. i am in love for the first time (real love that is) . but he leaves a rash soemtimes and it is pain ful for the rest of the night. i am on birth control. also...my sex drive has gone down a lot ...could that be related to it? help!! i hate when it hurts... is it his SIZE? my BIRTH CONTROL , or SOMETHING ELSE! and why is it?
2007-02-20 09:07:58 · 15 answers · asked by greendaymgn 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
his size could cause pain the first few times u have sex... I'm concerned by the presence of a rash though. What kind of rash? It could perhaps be caused by razor burn or, if he shaves, stubble could be irritating you. Anyway, if you have a rash down there you need to see your doctor, could be an STD, and that could halp explain the pain during intercourse.
2007-02-20 09:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by kerri c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I could understand your sex drive going down a lot if the sex hurts a lot to begin with, that's kind of obvious. I think it's the size, and if you haven't had much sex before, then going up a few sizes would probably be painful. I'm happy that you're in love, just make sure you use a lot of lubrication, and if there's anything he can do to make it better for you, tell him.
2007-02-20 09:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a lot of things but try this. Use a lot of lubricant. Preferably a water based one ( they don't get as sticky) make sure you are very wet and moist down there. Also have your guy put some on his package too. If he is wearing a condom that could be what you are reacting to as well so think about that. But lube up and relax your body when your having sex it will go in easier and be more pleasurable for the both of you. But like I said if he is wearing condoms you may be reacting to the latex. Check it out sweets and good luck!
2007-02-20 09:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by HappyMama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a good gyn exam, if there is such a thing as a "good" gyn exam, LOL. You need to be checked for any infections or health problems. Large size shouldn't cause pain, but the wrong position or technique might. Also low lubrication could cause discomfort.
2007-02-20 09:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by greengo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you have lots of lubricants available to try and see which one works best for you. for the rash check with your doctor to see if you might have hpv. it is the virus that causes genital warts and cervical cancer in women. if it is just a friction rash and the lubricants do not work, take a warm shower after sex then apply neosporin cream to help the discomfort.
2007-02-20 09:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by gwen0674 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, go to your dr. asap for that rash situation It might be, std's or just too big for you. Your lakc of sex drive is probably because it hurts you. If it didn't hurt, you wouldn't have the problem. Also, when you are at your dr's office, please mention all of these concerns. The dr. does need to know of them, to help you properly. And to know what is going on better. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-02-20 09:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to take more time for foreplay, when you are better lubricated it will hurt less, also if you are more relaxed and he is BIG, then your vagina muscles will be more relaxed too... the pill lowers the sex drive too.... if it's nothing more than his size, then ask him to be nicer... or put you always on top, so you can control penetration and movement.
2007-02-20 09:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by User 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best advice you can get is FOREPLAY FOREPLAY FOREPLAY
if you are super wet down there it will be easier to slide in.
the sex drive is probably your body telling you not to take part in an activity that is going to cause you pain.
you will be okay. in time it will all work out.
2007-02-20 09:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by Tissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your going thru alot of emotion right now and you should sit down with your man and let him know how you feel about everything. And maybe he'll come to a understanding about your feeling and be more gentle when it comes down to having sex. (Its all about commutation okay!)
2007-02-20 09:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure that everything is lubricated before and that you are not skipping the prelude.
2007-02-20 09:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by Vlado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋