How do I catch up to the rest of the world?

Question

K, i have no friends. It's easy to sum my life up by describing my high school science class:

The teacher says, "Everyone get into partners." I go around asking but before I even get to it everyone already has a partner. I then have to go around awkwardly asking people if I can join as the third wheel. Eventually someone lets me because they are being polite but I never really feel like I belong with them, they've already started the project without me.

That's pretty much how my friend-life is, mostly alone but sometimes I'm lucky enough to get someone to be polite to me. I'm a nice person, good looking(if it matters), just always one step behind.

It's weird because when I do find friends they already have friends so I feel guilty for taking someone's best friend. But since they usually forget about me it doesn't really matter.

I really hate always being alone.

i don't wait for friends, i just said that I go look for them, I'm just always too late. And I'm sick of being the last on the list although I do wait there partly because I have nothing better to do, mostly because I do like the person.

Am I the only person that goes to look for friends, because no one's ever come looking for me. All I do is look for people to be with even if it's just for a minute betewwn classes.

Answer 1

to make friends, you have to be a friend. i seriously doubt that you are the only person who ever becomes the "third" wheel.

you say, "It's weird because when I do find friends they already have friends so I feel guilty for taking someone's best friend. But since they usually forget about me it doesn't really matter."
great attitude, maybe that's why they forget about you. people can have more than one friend. you'll have several friends before you decide which one will be your best friend.
Friends do kinda come and go, and that's okay because we all change. but your best friend will be there for you through it all, as you will be for them.
stop going into these friendships waiting or expecting that folks will get tired of you. some may, and so what, there will be more. ask yourself what is about you that makes you a good friend. remember what it is. always. that will remind you that you are worhty and deserving of friendship, and if somebody decides they don't want to be your friend, YOU know what they are passing up!
stop thinking people are just being "polite" to you. how do you know that?? are they telling you that? or are you just thinking that nobody could actually like you for you?
SELF ESTEEM honey!!!! GIT SOME....
and you'll be okay. Good Luck!

Answer 2

You don't need to catch up with the rest of the world. It seems like you assume if you become friends with someone they will do all the friend work. Friendship is a two way street. If you don't work to stay in touch, and they don't either, then the friendship dies. I'm not saying as a friend you should have to do all the friend work, but in the beginning you may have to. The person you just became friends with has other friends, so they have more people to keep in touch with, and since they know you the least you're probably farther down on the list. Once you truly get to know the person, you may have a really great friendship. I wish you the best of luck. If you have a small school and no one is compatible with you, just remind yourself that soon high school will be over. c:

Answer 3

Try to be happy with who you are, were not all ment to be the same.. You dont need to catch up .