I posted a few questions earlier about my relationship and most of the answers told me that I needed to back off my boyfriend, stop analyzing everything, stop being so available, stop being needy and clingy BUT I DON'T KNOW HOW. PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO STOP BEING THIS WAY!!!! THANK YOU.
2007-02-20 08:52:04 · 6 answers · asked by Doubtful 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You need to surround yourself with people that will help boost your self esteem.
2007-02-20 08:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Mouse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a needy/clingy guy friend and if I had to suggest a few things for him, it would either be to find another clingy girl (I often hear guys complaining about clingy girls so I'm sure there are a lot out there) or just try your best to give her some space. I think this is the main thing. Don't constantly call her or smother her with your presence all the time, don't expect her to give you attention 24/7, just don't expect anything from her period. You shouldn't depend on her for your happiness or to help cope with your loneliness. It might just put pressure on her, and it might eventually just lead to her wanting to distance herself from you.
2016-05-23 23:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that the solution to dependency upon another for my well-being is to be grateful for the many things I have and to start to share those things.
I am creative - so I share my ideas with my friends/make stuff and give it away. (I make paper out of egg cartons!!, and people love getting it for projects)
I am optimistic - so I try to act cheerful and joyful. I visit an old lady in a rest home and she is SOOOooooo thankful and delighted that I would do that.
Gratitude and willingness to share should give you a better opinion of yourself and doing things for others (shoveling snow for an older person is a start) will certainly perk you up .
2007-02-20 09:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like u have a problem. U need to step back take deep breathes and calm down. Try doing deep breathing and when you feel clingy or needy bite your tongue don't do it to hard but that is a reminder to yourself that I need to back off. GOOD LUCK:):):)
2007-02-20 09:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sayruhhrawkz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you make sure that your boyfriend stays important but not your number one priority.
My priorties are: 1 Job 2 place to live 3 bills paid 4 fun stuff 5 social life...
You get the idea.
2007-02-20 09:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you see that you are a good person, that YOU like YOURSELF and that's all you need -- this need will pass.
Right now, you are needy because you don't feel worthy, not of love, or affection -- so you keep trying to get it. Problem is you are trying to get it from someone else, and nobody, but nobody can make you happy except YOU.
2007-02-20 08:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋