My daughter's 14 & today this guy she has liked for so long announced that he didn't think she was pretty. Being a mother of course I'd like to beat his mother severly but that won't help my daughter feel better. Can you tell me what I can do to make her happy again?
2007-02-20 08:50:55 · 14 answers · asked by gitsliveon24 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Boys at that age are completely clueless. They have no idea how hard it is on others emotions. More than likely he was being a smart-***, which is SOOOO what they do. Doesn't make it right. Maybe he really does think she is pretty and was embarrassed in front of some of his friends, so he said that? Either way, this is something everyone goes through and makes them stronger. Reassure her, comfort her, spoil her. If he does something else like that again, be sure and call his mother to discuss it like adults. If I knew my son was talking to a girl like that, he'd be severely punished and would apologize immediately! That shouldn't be tolerated EVER and hopefully this boy's mother would feel the same.
PS - I would want to know immediately if my son was doing something like that, but I understand that might be a little embarrassing for your daughter.
2007-02-20 09:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by itsjustfoolishness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately we've all been there and really sometimes there is nothing we can do but just be there for our daughters. try informing her that guys at that age only want one thing... sex, and tell her that just because that guy didn't think she was pretty doesn't give her the right to feel so crappy about herself. us women need to stick together! She's beautiful as she is, and guys are arrogant and selfish until like their 40's!!! but then you still have some stragglers. Life if harsh, and isn't always easy (hardly ever is... right) take this as a learning experience and get over him! she can do BETTER!!! he'll probably want her in a few years! when he grows up....
2007-02-20 16:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my I am 14 too. Wow I would like for my mom to take me out for a Mothers&Daughter kind of day on a nice Saturday and then I will like for her to tell me I am pretty no matter what some snot nose said.
2007-02-20 17:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
teenage boys even at 14 will say that if
a.) they really think so
b.) they love her
c.) friends told him too
D.) people accused him of likeing her
tell her which ever ones you like(they are true) and tell her she is beautifull to her family no matter what she could wiegh 500 pounds and have half her face covered in acne and you still would think she pretty and that guy was wrong tell her that good men look past good/bad looks at the girl inside and not the looks because shes changing so she wont look the way she does for long
2007-02-20 16:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by candyisdandybutiamohsohandy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 14 she could use a little surface support. In other words, instead of worrying about it affecting her self-esteem, find out things that are "not so great" about him and see if you can get her to participate and turn it into a laughing thing. I mean really, what makes him the expert? Has he been a undercover consultant for Sports Illustated Swimsuit edition.
2007-02-20 16:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by Denise D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shes 14. This is normal. She is going to think that its the end of the world. Just let her cry and be supportive. The bad feelings will pass. She'll forget all about this guy as soon as she likes another boy.
2007-02-20 16:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by zkiwi2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh that's sad. Poor girl! This age is hard.. they start getting more self concious about how they look. Do her friends know about this? Hopefully they will reassure her that she is beautiful and that this boy isn't worth it. Just keep telling her that she's beautiful inside and out, and make sure she's being surrounded in positive friends. Hope she feels better!
2007-02-20 18:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
girls day....like a spa day or something, even if you are giving facials at home! other than that, just reassure her how pretty she is and that men are mean sometimes, and quite frankly he obviously isn't good enough for her anyway...this isn't the end of the world. i know that sounds like nothing, but there really isn't a whole lot you can do. you can't always protect her, and this only will make her stronger.
2007-02-20 17:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell u that she buttiful inside and out tell her that if that guy said something bad about her that just goes to show that the wrent meant to toghether tell her one day that she will find the perfect guy and thathe wil like her so much that there will be nothing left to change about her.
2007-02-20 17:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a girly day and forget about boys!
Take her shopping, for a manicure, to the salon and have fun.
2007-02-20 16:54:17 · answer #10 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋