a friend of mine has been my friend for a year now. i really think she's nice and helpful and love her as a friend. but...she gets so mad so easily that sometimes i wonder if its worth it...shes told me to go to hel* and called me a bit* and told me to fu* off so many countless times. i dont swear and this really brings me down. she couldnt care less on the other hand. she tells me she doesnt want to be mean...but she is. she doesnt realise how she is hurting me. but...i dont have many friends so i dont want to break off the friendship...idk... anybody have help?? i dont know what to do!! and a lot of my other friends are friends with her too and they might not like me...if i dont hang out with her?? help!
2007-02-20 08:40:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you put up with the behaviour why would she change it???
You are teaching her how you can be treated... no respect, no cinsideration and downright mean.
I think it is time to clean your closet.
You do not need those kinds of friends, and so what if you don't have alot of friends... you should be a verbal punching bag for her anger, just because you are a friend....
I don't think so..........
She doesn't value your friendship enough for you to pursue it... Even if the other girls are her friends, big deal.,
You choose who you want around you....
Stop beating your head against the wall.
2007-02-20 08:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend, and being eleven has an advantage of not hearing cuss words. One of my friends name is Claire. I love her as a friend and she has a special thing that just makes me love her. Sometimes she can be really sensetive but we look back a few days after and laugh about it. So don't sweat it, just talk to her and figure things out. If that doesn't work, find REAL FRIENDS. It takes a long time to find one of those. But my best friend Christy is also friends with Claire who is friends with many other of my friends so we all have a connection somehow. And plus I am the only girl who plays football at my school which makes me popular. I also have a good friend and she is like the major hottie that all the boys love. Not all popular girls are mean ya know. os give it a shot, find a new friend who cares. But be sure to care for them too.
2007-02-20 16:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this "friend" really isn't a friend if she is that insensitive to your feelings. A true friend would know that.
If you want to continue a friendship with her, sit her down when she isn't upset and let her know that the things shes says hurt your feelings and makes you feel like you don't want to be friends.
Sometimes its better to "let a friend go" than it is to have your feeling hurt all the time and have your friend bring you down.
Having a friend is about bringing each other up, not down.
2007-02-20 16:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by zkiwi2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good friends are honesty with each other.
Great friendships withstand honesty.
Tell her what you see and what she says is bothering you. Tell her, "I love you, but I don't like what you do." "You have put me in a spot where I have to tell you that..."
If she has ANY introspection, she will cry and you two will be friends forever. If she calls you a "B", etc., then you'll know what to do from there...
Good luck!
2007-02-20 16:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by mhcgjl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could start by telling her you don't appreciate her disrespect for you, calling you names. Say you don't want a friend like that and if she does it again you will not be friends. Be tough with her.
2007-02-20 16:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that the things that she says to you are hurtful and insulting and ask her to please stop. Talk to your other friends about it too and see if they feel the same way. If she doesn't respect your wishes then she isn't a very good friend.
2007-02-20 16:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by lifeisrandom34 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if she's hurting that often she's not really your friend... when she starts doing it again point it out and say why your so hurt... if you dont feel confortable around her maybe just take some time off to refresh your ideas...
2007-02-20 16:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sue Ellen F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont think its right for her to treat you like that.
Friends dont do that/ so thats telling me she isnt much of a friend.
I would forget her and move on!
2007-02-20 16:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by circusgirl322 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you start taking her Sh** now, you'll end up taking everyone's SH** in life, stand up for yourself, if your friends are really good friends it shouldn't matter, they should respect you for you.
2007-02-20 16:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just ignore her
2007-02-20 16:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by stinkypinky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋