....is so important that for ex. a girl who thinks is pretty can seem pretty to others even if she isn't so pretty.And the opposite:A girl who thinks she is ugly,even if she is nice-looking,she is not attractive and people dont consider her to be as much beautiful as she is..What is YOUR opinion about this?
2007-02-20 08:35:03 · 6 answers · asked by MS.. 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm not sure I completely agree with this statement. And I'll explain why, by using myself as an example. When I was very young (elementary school age) my nickname was Plain Jane, mainly because I didn't have looks that made me stand out from the crowd. Also during parent teacher conferences when I was in kindergarten my teacher told my mom that 'she didn't understand why the boys in the class liked to help me out even though she had prettier girls in the class.'
Even though I grew up not think that I was that just a Plain Jane I still had emense confidence in myself and now as an adult when people remark on my pretty smile or my bright blues I'm always taken a back, b/c I don't think am all that pretty, but because others think I am, than I think that I must be.
So maybe just having confidence in yourself, not just in believing that you are pretty is what's important.
;-)
2007-02-20 08:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by AthenaGenesis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called 'self fulfilling prophecy' ... if you 'think' you are or can be something, then you will 'become it' ... and it 'works' in all kinds of 'ways' ...
Think of this 'joke' ... how do you tell the difference between a pessimist and an optimist?
If you give a pessimist a pony, he's going to think 'I'm going to have to shovel all of that sh-t!' If you give an optimist a barn full of sh-t, he's going to pick up a shovel and start digging, because 'there has to be a pony in there somewhere.'
Now turn the joke 'around' and give the pony to the optimist and the barn full to the pessimist ... the optimist is going to get on the pony and go for a nice ride, and the pessimist is going to stand there and moan about how much 'sh-t' there is to shovel.
So ... if you 'think you can change' someone else you really 'can't change' them ... but you may ruin an otherwise perfectly good relationship because you are constantly 'thinking less' of that person than you are of yourself. If you are in a relationship with someone who has 'things you don't like' but you like that person way too much even though they have them, those 'things you don't like' don't seem to matter nearly as much as that person does to you ...
It WORKS! Try looking at some things you 'believe' and try believing 'exactly the opposite' ... try with your 'favorite color' and your 'least favorite color' at first ... pretty soon, you'll find that your 'thinking' has changed the way you 'feel' about those two colors.
2007-02-20 08:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your prof of psych has a very valid point. Here's why: A woman who is not "pretty", but who is really enthusiastic and has a very fun personality is a very attractive person. It's as though the personality and the physical kindof merge into one attraction, so where the physical lacks, the personality more than makes up for and therefore makes that person "an attractive person". And when people think of that person, they tend to think of them as "pretty" because they always seem to attract the attention of all the guys, etc. Does that make sense?
Also, if a girl is "pretty", but has a bad self image and doesn't see herself as pretty, this bad self image shows. After you have been around someone like that, it doesn't take long before you start thinking of them as "not so pretty". And I believe that is, again, the same thing happening where the personality and the physical kindof merge into one impression.
2007-02-20 08:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I completely agree, there are many successful people who have self sabotaged themselves by doing stupid things because they think they are not worthy. Britney Spears is a good example, Bill Clinton, Richard Nixon, many actors , singers , entertainers who destroy their careers have low self-esteem problems,despite outward appearances.
Self-esteem is about thinking of yourself as being worthy and as being able to have friends, loving relationships, success as they define it and being happy amongst other things.
2007-02-20 08:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very important to believe in yourself. it will give you confidence to make important decisions
2007-02-20 08:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by gaynell_langford 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is 100% correct.
2007-02-20 09:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by addicted2stamping 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋