Isn't it my turn to be popular?

Question

My whole like I just watch other people with friends and think, next year will be different. didn't happen all through high school, isn't happening in college.

And I don't just wait for friends, I try my heart out, I've even made a few they just forget about me outside of school or have their own, high school friends.

(Is it possible to start having friends if you've never had any any/don't know how?)

Answer 1

Of course!! maybe you are super good looking and they feel threatened. Or maybe you give off the wrong vibes! Why dont you ask what they are doing that night and say I am free can I tag?? whats the worst that can happen.

Answer 2

It sounds like you are trying too hard here. Of course it is possible to start having friends. Every new day is full and ripe with just such an opportunity. Don't look so hungry. Be content with your own good company. It's better to be happy alone than lonely in a crowded room. Not all that glitters is gold, my dear. Some of the people you consider popular are struggling with issues you might not even imagine. Don't relegate your friends to your exact peers. There are wonderful senior citizens with wisdom, wit , and great stories who would love to befriend you and teach you life lessons. Do you belong to a church group. Young adult classed often sponsor camping trips, pot luck suppers, and midnight bowling, for example, which are great ways to have fun and meet people. Wear a smile and put your best foot forward. Surely you think highly enough of yourself to realize that you have much to offer any person. Just don't make like a door mat or sell yourself short for the sake of what you call popularity. I have made friends all along life's way, from many age groups, and new ones pop up just when you least expect them. Might be a lady in a book store, or the person who handles your dry cleaning. Be interested in others and they will find you interesting. Be a good listener and look on the sunny side. Expect nothing more and nothing less from yourself. You will have lots of acquaintances, I predict, but few real friends of real substance. One is good enough, really.

Answer 3

I would suggest not trying your heart out. That sounds like desperation and people shy away from it.
Popularity is wayyyyy overrated. You know what popularity is? It's conformity. Popular people are popular becuase they conform to all the norms of accepted coolness. They lack uniqueness, personality, opinion, and the ability to think for themselves (unless they're overwhelmingly charismatic, but that's a rare gift). I would rather know real people than popular people. That said...
Be yourself, try to get involved in clubs/groups/etc. that do stuff you like to do. Or try something new. Homework groups are great for getting to know people. Not so great for getting homework done though. Play to your strengths. For instance, if you get good grades, don't flaunt it, but make sure people find out. They'll be dying to work with you and then you can get to know each other.
It goes without saying you have to nurture the friendship. It's 2-sided. You have to be a friend (and be friendly) to have friends. Include people in stuff you do.
It is totally possible to start having friends even if you're not sure how to go about it. I'm completely socially inept and I have friends. I acquired them by being myself and they found me.

Answer 4

It's hard to make good solid friends these days. Then again, maybe you are trying too hard. Let them come to you. Try to be outgoing at college and talk to the person next to you. After you get to know the person ask if they want to hang out sometime. I found it easy to talk to people at college. High school, the kids were just cruel and hormonal.

Answer 5

I used to think that. The truth is theres no telling who will be popular. It just sort of happens. It seems like nobody earns it or works hard it just kind of happens. And they can lose it even though its hard once theyre really popular.

And yeah you can make friends whenever, maybe go after people with few other friends so you can get closer.

Good luck buddy

Answer 6

when you make a new friend, it's just as much your responsibility to keep things going as it is the other persons. if you are in college- find someone who knows where all the parties are and GO! when you start finding people you have things in common with, you will meet their friends and all become friends. hopefully you live on campus, or you're not gettting the true college experience.
keep putting yourself out there and be outgoing- you've got nothing to lose!

Answer 7

you will make your life the way you want it to be...

I was an ugly duckling in high school without friends

when I graduated and went into college I established a modelling career that also allowed me to be on a hit TV show in my home town...which is a big population BTW.

I also had a international modelling career which my former peers know about and now they contact me and say " sorry"...I just brush them off because I am too good for them because I have married a rich man who is music producer for Sony Music

I laugh at all those idiots that I use to know!!!

Answer 8

it is very possible to make friends at any age no matter what...you just have to be yourself...do not try and be someone your not because people can see that...try not to push people and get into a friend relationship slowly if needed, your not going to make a best friend over night...i know its hard but you will find friends...you need to put some effort into a friend realationship just like you do a spouce one...and if they wont talk to you or ignore you then do you really want to be friends with someone like that...just be patient and it will happen!

Answer 9

As far as I'm concerned(which is very, about everyone), You are my friend- and I never desert my friends. I'm also around to talk when needed. Sound good? Well, it's an honest offer, by an honest gentleman. [e-mail]

Answer 10

join communities or clubs in college .. when u hang out with ppl of the same interest n do stuff outside of ur institution u will make frndz very easily~!