My partners parents split up about 11yrs ago, my partner stayed with his father and his sister with her mother. My partner then had to start paying the mortgage as his mother was taking them to the cleaners. Anyway the 'deal' between his father and himself was that when he died the house would become my partners since he paid the mortgage for about 10yrs. Unfortunately his dad died just over a yr ago and we have just moved into the said house. In his dads will my partner was to get the house and all its belongings and his sister was to get £200. My partner told his sis that she could take what she wanted and by golly she ransacked the house. Now his mother and sis are no longer talking to us and our son as they think my partner should be generous and give his sis half the house or alot of money, what would you do, legally he is entitled to the lot but morally where would you stand?
2007-02-20 08:33:20 · 13 answers · asked by Amy A 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I think your brother has every right, morally and legally, to keep the lot. Where was his sister and Mum while he was paying the mortgage for 10 years? Nah, they sound like a greedy, grasping pair. They should be lucky they got anything.
2007-02-20 08:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your partner should keep it.
It is his house from his fathers Will & he paid the mortgage.
F*** his sister off.
He should not have let her ransack his house.
You can choose your friends but not your relations.
His Dad's Will was that the sister gets £200.00 he must respect his fathers Will.
You make your life together & support each other & forget the mother & sister .
Your family don't need those sort around.
Have a good life
2007-02-20 16:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a moral standpoint, I would allow the sister to take some pieces of furniture, photos, books, etc. so that she has a tangible momento. Morally, how could she demand that your partner do against his father's wishes, when he left specific instructions? If he had intended for her to receive such things he would've said so in his will, which he did have.
2007-02-20 16:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so she took what was inside the house and now wants half the house of the cash equivalent?
Sounds like the moves of a woman consumed by greed to me, stick to your guns your partner did more than enough by allowing her to take some freebies from the house.
2007-02-20 16:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by Monica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope that the father verbalized his rationale or had it put in the will. If not, tell the sister the reason that the father did that. If she is still not happy, I would just let her go her own way. Your partner is right and he should not feel otherwise, nor should he give in to his selfish sister and mother.
2007-02-20 16:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sabrina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morally you stand were ever you like as you said the sister ransaked the house so the subject of morals should already be answered, also the will should give an indication of the deseased's whishes which is what i think is most important
2007-02-20 16:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Amy,
The law is certainly on your side. Now, what about the moral side?
Well from what you say it would seem to me that the mother and sister have had more than their fair share over the years so I would not loose any sleep over it. They sound very greedy to me so personally I would tell the pair of them to go take a running jump.
2007-02-21 08:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by LYN W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not do that. She was given the option of taking whatever she wanted and it sounds like she did just that. Have him stick to his guns. He paid for the house for that long, he is intitled to keep what was given to him. I am sure the sis wants to make him feel bad, but to be honest it business. Would you give your sister half of your house beacuse she was upset? I dont think anybody would. I would not go after anything else, but I would keep what was given to me, espically if I paid that long for it. Good luck, and sorry for your loss.
2007-02-20 16:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by buzyb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should obey the wishes of the father, since it was HIS belongings they are discussing. If sis was to get 200, she gets 200. Period. If dad wanted her to have more, he would have made that arrangement.
2007-02-20 17:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by kingstubborn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morally, I'd stand inside the house.
2007-02-20 16:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Michael E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋