My best friend is a wedding/party planner. She did my first baby shower which was little more than streamers that I put up myself and some good food that she prepared. No special desserts, or baby shower games and I had to make the invites and send them out myself. I was pretty upset.
We weren't going to have any more children (or so I thought) so I got rid of all my baby stuff. So I want a shower/BBQ for our couple friends and their kids but gifts are not expected. But I do want a little more celebration like cute cupcakes and decorations to celebration this new life!
How do I tell my friend I want to do it myself? She already said she wants to do the shower - but will be squeezing it in with her busy schedule. I'd rather she just be a guest. What should I do? And is it bad taste to host my own shower even if it's more like a party/bbq with family and friends?
2007-02-20 08:32:30 · 7 answers · asked by Serendipity 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Just tell her you know that she is really busy and you'd rather do it yourself. Say you want to give it a personal touch since it's a "family" affair. I don't think it's in bad taste. When I have another child, I plan to host my own. Like you, I got jipped in the baby shower department. My baby shower was 4 hours of sitting around watching my cousin sing karokee. No games, no decorations, no cake or cupcakes. Nothing, just a regular party.
2007-02-20 08:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you call it a baby shower, then yes, this would be in very poor taste, for two reasons. First, it is a huge faux pas to host a shower for oneself. Second, showers should only be for a first baby. A baby shower is not for the baby, it is for the mother, as a way to celebrate the transition to motherhood.
A shower is not based on need (for example whether you got rid of your baby stuff) If it were, then well-off women wouldn't be entitled to a shower, because they don't "need" one.
I don't think you should call it a shower but say "no gifts" because some people will bring gifts anyway, and then the people who didn't bring a gift will feel bed.
There are two things you can do within the bounds of etiquette. You can have a party, and just call it a barbeque. You can still have a baby theme, but nobody else should know about it until they arrive at the party. This way you get to have a nice celebration, but without looking tacky by throwing yourself a shower.
The other option is to wait until after the baby is born and throw a party in honor of the baby, for everyone to come meet your new little one.
2007-02-20 08:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie E 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should just tell her that you want to invite her as a guest. That is why you are not excepting gifts because you are wanting to share this special day with them and you don't want her to have to worry about having to do anything and tell her that you already had a baby shower you don't need another that is why you are just having a get together to celebrate the new baby with everyone that is close to you and your significant other if she still wants to help i would maybe ask her to go with you to the store and help with the groceries or something like that. I hoped this has help you and good luck with the new baby!
2007-02-20 09:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't host your own shower. I would be appalled to recieve an invitation to such a thing. If it's going to be a party/bbq with family and friends, it shouldn't be too hard to get one of those family/friends to be the official hostess. Surely you have more than one person who's willing to hostess a shower for you, and who will honor your tactfully expressed wishes on how you would like to be feted and drowned in presents.
2007-02-20 09:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
generally, it can be considered bad etiquitte to host your own shower. You may wish to ask another friend to be the host, or offer to help with only certain aspects of the party, such as food and recruit other friends to help with the part too.
Or you can jsut host a "welcome the baby" BBQ and not ask for gifts or call it a shower .
2007-02-20 08:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by gojulie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you say that gifts are not expected, but you also say that you need baby stuff and that is why you want a shower so i wouldnt tell people that gifts are not expected, because you know if you dont get any or very little you will be disappointed. as for telling your friend, tell her that you dont want her to have to worry about it all with her busy schedule and you will do the planning.
2007-02-20 08:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by krystal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 11:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by persinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋