I have a 10 month old daughter who will not sleep thought the night and we (me & my husband) have tryed every thing that we can think of like lavander baths to rocking and listening to music and a warm bottle. So someone please help me.
2007-02-20 07:54:59 · 14 answers · asked by queenoftheklowns@sbcglobal.net 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Meet the big three:
Full belly
Clean diaper
Comfortable bed
Once the big three are met, you can help her to fall asleep in her own which will teach her how to go back to sleep on her own. We never did this with our first child and he didn't sleep through the night til he was 5. We tried it with child number 2 at 10 months and had great results.
Then try this: When she is sleepy but not asleep, after rocking or snuggling, put her in her crib, you can pat her back, shush her, sing to her- just try not to pick her up. Its okay if she cries a bit. Just comfort her without picking her up. You can stay with her til she sleeps. The next night do the same. Then gradually move farther from the crib on the next few nights until she is able to be by herself.
If you have the tempermant to handle a bit more crying, do the same as above but instead of staying next to her, leave the room for 5 minutes, come back, pat her back, soothe her- but don't pick her up. leave. Then if she cries out again, wait 5 minutes and repeat. Then you can gradually move up to 10, 15 and 20 minute intervals. After 3 nights she will probably go to sleep in a matter of minutes.
I tried everything with our daughter, who slept about 40 minutes at time. What saved our sanity was Jodi Mindell's book- sleeping through the night. She offers great suggestions that really work and don't make you feel bad. She also explains the sleep cycle differences between adults and babies and the detriments of sleep problems.
I hope this helps. It really works for us. We are going through a second go round after the flu interpted our darlings sleep patterns and after our 2nd night back on the sleep training its an amazing difference.
2007-02-20 08:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by jettyspagetti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is a simple fix to your problem. I have a 13 month old child that we had to break from this bad habit.. that is right it is a habit.... It was so easy that if I would have tried it sooner ( I thought there were no way it would work) but it did.
1) I put her in her bed at 9
2) I let her stay in there ( crying or not)
3) get a monitor and put in the room so you know they are ok
4) LEAVE HER IN THERE NO MATTER WHAT
5) do not go in there to get her ( that is the biggest problem with parents) if you go in there they will start crying again!!
6) leave them ( may take few nights..in worst cases weeks) ( my daughter cried for 3 nights first a few hours off and on.. and less from there on)
7) they will learn sleep all night trust me!!!!
8) they will also learn to put there selves to sleep
9) mine is now sleeping 11 hours at least a night and has been for a few months
10) make sure you have a good routine down try to do the same thing every night to make sure she knows that she is getting ready for bed time
Good Luck
Need anything else just ask
ps. also they will have episodes from time to time of getting up just leave them and they will go back to sleep it is normal!!
2007-02-20 08:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Controlled crying.
All that rocking and soothing is making her think that if she wakes in the night she is rewarded. Your job is to make her think it is not worth waking up.
When she wakes at night, go in and stroke her head, say 'It's time for sleep' and go out again. If she cries leave it 5 minutes and go back in and repeat. Now do this every 10 minutes and eventually she will fall asleep, it might take 2 hours the first ngiht but she will.
Repeat this every night and the crying period will get shorter until after 1 week or so you will wake in the morning and realise you have slept all night!
Remember that although she is upset by this now, it is doing her good in the long term as she grows into a toddler she will need lots of uninterrupted sleep to play and be happy. And most importantly a happy, well rested Mummy means a happy baby!
Good luck
2007-02-20 08:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had the same problem with our son. The question is, are you going in there each night and holding her when she cries. Some people suggest ignoring them, I, on the other hand could not do this. My son was only waking up to be comforted...which sounds like what your daughter is doing. Like I said, don't pick her up...try to soothe her while she is in her crib. Rub her back or sing to her until she calms down and goes back to sleep. You may have to do this several times before she gets the hint that you are not going to pick her up.
She is too old to be waking up at during the night.
Good luck, hope this helps.
2007-02-20 09:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Girly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to manipulate her to sleep and let her cry it out. Put her to bed at bedtime, after a short bedtime routine; make sure her tummy is full and her diaper is clean and she is sleepy. Put her in bed awake. Leave the room, and DON'T GO BACK TILL MORNING. No matter how often or for how long she cries. She has a bad habit that you are reinforcing every time you go in her room when she cries. Every time. So you need to stop doing that. Trust me, I know after 7 babies that it DOES work, and it usually only takes a week, two at most, for the baby to "get it".
2007-02-20 09:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet the need
hungry, sleep, potty
consult doc first
guessing feed more and or more often
stretch feeding time from 3 to 4 to 6 to 8 hours
try it u will like it
p.s. room should be totally dark.
2007-02-20 07:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend would drive her baby around in the car seat for 10 minutes.... and then the baby fell asleep, she did this for like 6 months, may sound crazy, but its the only thing that could get her to sleep
2007-02-20 07:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of sleep in children can cause serious
health problems.If parents follow some simple
techniques for making their children sleep,
it can be avoided. I found useful information
at http://nosleep.in/sleepchildren.html
2007-02-21 03:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of food, nice room temperature, hanging mobiles, soft baby music.
2007-02-20 09:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This lady was on OPRAH and her method worked with Moms and their babies...http://www.dunstanbaby.com/
I watched the program and it really did work. Oprah was amazed. Maybe you can find a transcript of the show on Oprah's website. I was amazed too.
I really hope this works for you and Happy sleeping to all of you.
2007-02-20 08:03:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋