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Here goes - I have a friend who has been in and out of trouble. I've known him for about 6 years and he's a really fun guy to be around, but he always chooses the wrong girl! Now, his most recent fling has gotten him into some big-time trouble - he's in jail! Anyhow, my lease is about up and i'm having trouble finding a place (i have dogs) and he offered me a room at his place. That means if/when he gets out, we would be room mates. I'm totally psyched about the bonfires and i'll finally have a buddy to go trail riding with. BUT - he's also very attractive and charming. I know better than to ever get involved with him in any way other than just 'friends,' and i've done a d@mn good job so far. But his family seems to love me and they compare every girl he dates with me (maybe they just tell me that). I really do care for this guy (in a keep-him-out-of-trouble way), but i could never be 'with' him - so what do you all think? Would this situation work, or would i be too weak??

2007-02-20 07:26:31 · 17 answers · asked by gunnerdane13 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

Wow - that was a lot of answers, fast!
Jack - You've totally got it right - why do i always think i can FIX people?! Thanks.

2007-02-20 07:42:37 · update #1

17 answers

You think you can fix him!!??

So does every other woman who ended up in jail because her "friend" put her in a position to go there.

STAY AWAY!!

2007-02-20 07:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jack Tax 3 · 1 0

I dunno. When you live together you see a lot of each other. If you guys know each other well enough you should be fine, but if you grow more and more attracted to him as time goes on you know that you're going to buckle eventually. I have had many male room mates and it worked out just fine, but I saw them as room mates and friends, not possible dating material. I guess b/c I had my mind made up and stuff it just never crossed my mind. You may be in too deep. I would probably find somewhere else to stay. That may not be a mess you want to get tangled in.

2007-02-20 07:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ericka H 2 · 1 1

Yes it can be done .Reading this something kept hitting me its as plane as the nose on your face but search your heart and put your thinking cap on.What if deep down you do care for him in another way how dose he feel about you.Could ever see your self with him.Maybe you two are meant to be have you thought about it.Just seems to me his been thought a lot and you must care a lot or you wouldnot even think about moving in with him at all.But there are lots of people that live together as just friends.But it really sound to me there is more to it with you.

2007-02-20 07:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Of course a guy and a girl can be JUST roommates. The best thing is to agree ahead of time that you will not date, just remain friends. But since you had to ask if your would be able to do it or not then I would say no. If your doubting yourself then its a bad idea.
Just think about it more. Remember if you fall for him and then things go bad, you will loose that friendship. If you think living with him will tempt you too much then don't do it. Save the friendship.
Good luck!
-Brit

2007-02-20 07:40:22 · answer #4 · answered by Positively Pink 5 · 1 1

Yes it can be done. BUT,
It sounds like your particular situation won't work. You've already said he is "attractive and charming" and that he always gets into trouble with women. Danger Will Robinson! Danger!

2007-02-20 07:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

it sounds like you will be fine...just be strong and hold yourself back when you find you want a relationship. I am moving into an apartment next year with one of my guy friends from high school...I dont see anything wrong with it.

2007-02-20 07:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

find a great man and then you will know that you guys won't ever do anything. And plz no friends with benifets cause you might have another friend for life!

2007-02-20 07:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥taken♥♥ 3 · 0 1

It will work out until you both are drinking at the same time. Also it may be roadblock with men your trying to meet.

2007-02-20 07:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by FF Geek 3 · 0 1

Yes. you can just be friends. easy. and id stay that way 4 your own good... Keep being friends and leave it at that. as you feel attracted to him already- Dont live with him.

2007-02-20 07:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by Aussie_chick 2 · 0 1

specific. yet in line with danger no longer in the event that they have emotions for eachother. in the event that they prefer eachother crossing barriers is gonnna ensue. yet whilst your jsut stable pals thn specific. you may stay jointly and repsect the barriers basically.

2016-10-02 11:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by persinger 4 · 0 0

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