Real mom keeps buying them for her. Her dad and I don't approve.
2007-02-20 07:16:52 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i guess i dont see anything wrong with it....if that is what she is comfortable in and that is what she likes i see no harm in letting her wear them......i wear them all the time and YES they are comfortable if you have the right kind and they fit properly......and i dont think they are skanky as someone has said and they dont make her a whore....that is a bad stereotype......i wear thongs and g stings and i am NOT a whore they just feel comfortable and make me feel good about myself......and besides i dont really think her father or you as a step parent should care or even have a say in what kind of underwear she is wearing.....that is the real mother and the daughters business....does she tell you what to wear or even know what you wear.....probably not....so why should you care so much....i think you should focus on being good parents and less on the fashion of this girl
2007-02-20 12:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by blah blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes but as long as her real mom buys her thong underwear, her real mom is probably not going to draw the line when it comes to other age-inappropriate garments or make-up. All you can do is talk to the mom and ask her where she thinks the limit is for those kinds of things. It may make her think and at least she'll have to come up with an answer. Talk to the mom with your husband present. Maybe you could have some position already articulated that would explain how the TWO of you feel about it. Tell her that you want to get this discussion on the table before this stuff goes too far and also because for a 12-year-old, this is just the beginning of a lot of choices.
2007-02-24 02:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the other mothers out there but if I had a 12 year old daughter I would NOT let her wear thong underwear. Why does she need to wear them? Is she SHOWING them to someone? The point of thongs is to eliminate panty lines and I doubt a 12 year old should be having that problem at that age.
2007-02-20 07:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by Angela 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm assuming sharing your thoughts with her biological mom is not a good or effective option. Make sure you tell her that you know her mom allows her to wear them but her dad & you don't want her wearing them at your house (in a very nice way). I would take her shopping for new underwear, this sounds kinda random and odd, but it might be a good idea if you bought her some seamless or even part lace panties that are more age appropriate but that aren't granny panties. Lace boy shorts are very much in style and they cover everything. Wearing thongs probably makes her feel older and pretty, etc. which is normal so if she were to wear another kind that made her feel similar to that but if they showed from her low jeans boys wouldn't think she was for sale. Since it is not completely up to you I think this is a good transition, even if you don't feel she is ready for these, compromising is worth it.
2007-02-20 07:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can see both sides of this, but the thing is... even though I wouldn't want my own to... no one will know she is wearing it but her, and it could be fulfilling some sort of weird little self esteem thing for her, and since it's out of site and not some crazy piercing or sheer tube tops or Tammy Faye make-up, I think that maybe this is a battle you may want to let your stepdaughter win.
I know its hard to score points with stepkids anyways, and like i said, no one will see it but her, so if it makes her feel better, you may score a "cool mom" point in her book without having to parade her around with her winning this round, ya know?
A 12 year old is just beginning the world of uncertainty... Adolescence. Something that she can do to make her feel better (even if it's ridiculously uncomfortable panties) could boost her confidence and make her feel "pretty" without parading herself like a goofball.
Another option is the equally cute (but more covered) "boy cut" panties; they actually cover more areas than briefs, and are the in fashion now. Maybe you can take her to a grown up panty place, and let her choose out a few especially from you!
2007-02-20 07:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by sweetnytmare 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would a 12 yr. old want to wear thong underwear..I don't approve of that either. She is too young if you ask me, and her real mother needs to quit buying it for her.
2007-02-20 07:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by T. MiLANi 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't really see how it would concern you if your stepdaughter wears them. It's her underwear, worry more about her social life. Let her wear them, be more concerned about who she hangs out with and what she does in her spare time. I wear them, not all the time but I do sometimes, and I'm not a whore in any way. I have a feeling your going to have more important battles to fight with her than what clothes ( that no one other than her sees) she wears. Choose your battles, and don't let little things disrupt your relationship with her.
2007-02-20 12:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 11 and I buy her the low ride bikinis and the low cut boy shorts so that her underwear band doesnt show on her waist...I think thongs for a 12 yr old are a bit much! my husband would kill me haaha! but, the low ride panties are perfect, my daughters pants always gap in the back even with a belt so they work great!
I would feel the same way as you!!!! I don't this its appropriate just for everyday wear!
2007-02-20 07:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by nataliiee1 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The only reason I would wear a thong is if my husband was going to see me in them. Not to wear daily and they are defiinitley not comfortable. A 12 year old should not wear them.
2007-02-20 07:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that thongs are necessary for a 12-year old unless she uses them for a dance class or something of that nature. I guess that it also depends on the girl.
2007-02-20 07:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋