I have been friends with this girl for about 3 years. I mean like best friends we did everything together. We were known as when you see one of us everyone knew the other one was right behind. But that all changed. About 1 1/2 months ago she just completely stopped talking to me, because she was tired of my mom calling her a bad influence when i was the one getting into trouble not her. I was very confused. Yes i am a teenagers i get caught trying stupid things and before i had explained to my mom that it wasn't her fault it was our descision together to try drinking. So i told her on the phone when she called that my mom didn't trash talk her and that she didn't call her a bad influence and she says "damn straight." i just got off the phone with her and went on with my business. I noticed for the past month there has been no drama at all in my group of friends, becuase she left. It's sad to say but now know what was the reason of all the drama and stupidity, it was her. She came up to
2007-02-20 07:11:41 · 8 answers · asked by Jessica! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
me in the hallway and told me she was going to call me tonight. Like everything was alright. We had had our fights before but nothing like this one so i don't know what to do because i really value you her as a friends i mean she was liek my sister and i am so confused!
2007-02-20 07:13:21 · update #1
I wouldn't think of her as a friend anymore, she was. You noticed a big difference in the way your friends acted together in the group, there was no drama.
She certainly was a big influence on you earlier on, she was a peer who helped shape your self-esteem, your confidence, and a perspective in who you are as a person. Now you've gained all these abilities because of her, but now you don't need her anymore. Sure, you feel obligated and thankful for what she has given you, but you don't owe her anything. Friends give and take, they don't say "I owe you" and write a task down to give later.
You're just a different person who's grown out of the old relationship and it's okay. That's what happens at your age. I had friends I grew out of and I had friends who grew out of me. Friends help us find who we truly are and they validate those good parts about us. Eventually we don't need to be reminded anymore and we can go on without them. So if she wants to talk to you some more, that's okay. But if you see that you don't need her anymore, then just go with the people you feel more comfortable with.
Remember, you don't owe her anything. You just say, "Thank you, for having been my friend."
2007-02-20 07:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me my senior year of high school but with different circumstances...well i ended up losing a friend but in the end it seemed like the best because it has been about a year and my other friends have had no problems since then and we used to have constant problems. We just figured out that it was her that was causing all the problems. It took me 12 years to realize that I didn't need her anymore and I was better off without her. She tried to get in contact with us a couple months ago to try to be friends again but we dont really want her back. Things happen and you realize that life moves on without them. They may want your world to stop while they are not with you to feel guilty but you just have to bear it and move on. There is so much more of life ahead of you.
2007-02-20 15:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could say this changes when you get older, but it doesn't. I have best friends I see all the time, and then one day, we just stop talking. People change. Make new friends, find out who you can really trust, stick to your values and what you believe. Don't dwell on what you could have done different, because this is how the world works these days. Your life will be better without her.
2007-02-20 15:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she has a bad attitude and you might be better off without her. I know that friends are important and you want to hold on as long as possible, but perhaps it's time. Also, you could try to wait it out. My sister and her BF had a fight and just needed a little separation. If she was like a sister, than the fight won't matter in the long run.
2007-02-20 15:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by allycat19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you're going through. Except with my friend it was because of a boy. This is when you have to question your friendship and if you believe it can out stand something like this than go for it. If not then, as sad as it seems, you need to move on.
2007-02-20 15:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by lexiss91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's better to let go....If you really feel that way, I guess it's ur time. Sometimes u just have to say Goodbye to someone, you can only say I'm sorry so many times before it has no meaning at all anymore
2007-02-20 15:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by kizdrop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont really know what ur question is but i guess all u can do is wait and let her come to u because its obviously her with the problem or u can talk to ur mom
2007-02-20 15:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by surfincraeshep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have just took the GED so you dont have to deal with that bullshit but since you already did you should live on a deserted island for a month
2007-02-20 15:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋