Why do single women almost always hang out in groups, whether it is at a mall or club/bar or social events? I can understand the reason for security (i.e. to protect themselves from jerks confronting them) & also the reason for just having a good time, like guys do too.
But women have to realize that hanging out in groups intimidate a lot of men from approaching them. Even the man who is confident or brave enough to approach a woman he finds attractive, is more likely to be a bad or abusive jerk. A good-natured, intelligent man with a high-paying job that women crave for is generally not confident in approaching a woman when she's in a group. They feel that it is indecent to single out a person from a group & then getting laughed at by the group, upon rejection - I'm speaking from personal experience & friends' opinions.
2007-02-20 06:50:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Generally, women go to bars with friends to have a good time. So, we'll spend a lot of time with them because that's the whole point of us being there. If you want to talk to one of us individually, wait until we step away from the group to get a drink, request a song, or go to the bathroom. There are better places than bars to meet women, and I would recommend going there. Try book stores, grocery stores, the mall...whatever. Because we're so accustomed to men being jerks in bars, we sort of expect any guy who approaches us in a bar to be a creep, so meeting a woman there may not be the place to do it.
2007-02-20 07:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how hot the single lady is! I don't believe that married women hate single women, but i hate to say it when you've been in a relationship (marriage) for a while you look at young love and singles and remember the first rush of lust in the old days! And you want it back so badly! That you may resent them a little but not hate. You might be worried that your partner might crave the first rushes of love and go after that foxy lady. But that all comes down to paranoia and those marred ladies need a trip to ann summers and a vacation.
2016-05-23 23:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because not every single women is looking for dates, she might want to go out with her friends to have a drink and a laugh. I can understand if you are referring to groups of women purposefully trying to intimidate men, and that is downright cruel (and this goes for groups of men too), but if you are intimidated by a group of women that are not purposefully trying to do you any harm, then that is an issue regarding your confidence that you need to work on.
Take care : )
2007-02-20 14:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, when I go out with my friends, it's because I ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH THEM!!! I'm not there to meet men. Frankly, a bar or a club is about the worst place in the world to meet the right kind of person (either male or female).
2007-02-20 09:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by stormsinger1 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
good point of view, but see, when you like someone you wait till you get the chance to talk to them, for example, if you are at a club and you see a girl you like with her friends, you like her, you wait till she goes to the bathroom, or maybe her friends do, and she is alone at the table, then you aproach her.
also, eye contact helps a lor, you look at her, if she is a bit interested, she'll make chance for your aproach, but you must be wise not lo let go of the chance.
now, there is also an interesting point in what you say: we do hang out, maybe just for a good time, like you guys do, do you realize that when you hang out wiht your buddies, you look at women and admit that she looks good, but you dont aproach her, cause your'e not into that at the moment, you just wanna hang wiht your friends, well, so the same goes to women when they get together, wich can be a mistake, cause if they are single they'd like to meet people, but is something you just do without noticing it.
2007-02-20 07:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mari 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They have friends and want to spend time with those friends. Just because a woman is single does not mean they base every decision on how it will help them meet more men.
Why would you just approach a woman cold, with no return eye contact or anything to indicate her possible interest? If she is in a group and gives you the eye, your chances are much better than if she is alone and hasn't glanced at you.
2007-02-20 08:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by soelo 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
We're "cowards" for hanging out with our friends?!! I go places with my friends to SPEND TIME WITH THEM, NOT "pick up" guys (I'm married now, so obviously this is the case, but when I was single I wasn't looking to "pick up" or BE picked up in bars.) I went out to have fun with my friends. When women go "out" the single women think they might meet someone, but that is not the reason we do it, it's secondary. Most women would NEVER go to a bar alone, and forget safety...any woman who does that looks like she's "on the make" or possibly even a prostitute...besides, how can that be fun? Women assume that a lot of guys who are hanging out in bars by themselves are only looking for a one night stand, and because of that, you are MUCH more likely to be rejected if you are alone. If YOU are with a group of friends, you have a much better chance; we assume you are there for the same reasons we are, and you come across as more fun loving, and "well-rounded," as opposed to the loner guy staring creepily over his drink. Also, you have friends to "occupy" the other girls, and a girl is more likely to hang out with YOU knowing that she has't "ditched" her friends (it's true, we do think about that stuff). But if you DON'T have any friends to hang out with (Serin) then my suggestion is try to come across as fun loving and out going as possible, and don't seem too desperate. Women will only assume the worst.
2007-02-20 09:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by wendy g 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
So, I should go to a bar and drink alone hoping that an immature man will not be intimidated and will come and hit on me? NOT!
2007-02-20 10:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by puma 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
send a drink or something, make eye contact & smile. if she's into you she'll make a point to try & talk to you alone. if she doesn't leave the group she's not up for being "picked up"; either in general or specifically.
[SERIN, you really have a sad & twisted view of the world. men are perfect & women are evil? it's all individual. men & women really aren't all that different. we're all human.]
2007-02-20 08:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Because they're cowards. They know it's easier to intimidate a man (what, do you think they do this on accident?) if they have their friends to back them up. The worst trash talkers I've ever seen were groups of single, catty women in a bar who were having the greatest time rejecting every sap who tried to talk to them.
Contrast this to groups of guys in a bar. The worst they'll ever get is drunk and obnoxious. However, the one thing I've always noticed is their willingness to let strangers (men and women) join the fun. I've spent nights drinking and laughing with guys I'd never met before, just pissing the night away and having a good time. The worst they'll ever want to put someone in their place is in a game of Ping Pong.
2007-02-20 07:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by Steve 4 · 3⤊ 9⤋