Eh Yo, i'm in this problem man. I be askin' all my dudes what i should do about this sitution. Im dating this girl right now and she is hellafine. but she dun't know i got this girl on the side. don't hate on me, yall know yall boyfriends and dudes got a sidechick. anywayz, the girl i be creepin' with got knocked up by me! She don't know what to do, keep it or abort it. i told her that if she has it im not going to be there for her since im 19 and i gots my own life to live. i dunt even like this girl, she just a hoodrat i picked up at a club when i was bored. If she got the abortion done, i told her i be glad to pay for half of it since im partly to blame. i think the decision to get the abortion rests on me. truth be told, i dunt even think its mine, ya know? because i'm just prolly one dude out of many she be creepin roud with. what do yall think? should i force her to abort or not?
2007-02-20 06:43:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'm not like like a playa, it was just one time. i love my girl and i don't want her to get hurt by this information about the bitty i was cheatin wit
2007-02-20 06:51:37 · update #1
1) Before you start making babies, go back to 5th grade English. People in this country already have enough problems speaking properly and we don't need more to be added to the bunch.
2) The better idea is to just stop making babies altogether. You are obviously not in any way, shape, form, or manner mature enough to procreate and quite frankly, I'd be just as fine with you staying out of the gene pool. Since you clearly have a problem with the whole contraception thing, just stop "creepin" altogether.
3) You cannot legally, morally, or ethically (as if you're worried about any of those) "force" this girl to abort. It is 100% her decision, not yours. Your only involvement in the situation is waiting and seeing when you will start paying child support and how much you will owe.
4) If you really loved "your girl", you would not have "sidechicks". No, "datnigga", not all boyfriends and dudes got a "sidechick", because there are some people in this world that still do have at least a resemblance of a moral compass and a conscience left, who know that that is wrong. But then again, what does it matter, since "she be creepin roud too".
Good luck with the hearings and that child support.
2007-02-20 07:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by griffon1426 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I worked for a doctor who provided abortion services for 5 years. He was a great man who believed that woman should make educated decisions in a supportive environment. Having an abortion is not an easy choice to make, it is not your choice, and inevitably it is her decision alone to make. You can not force someone to have an abortion. It is possible that both of you could have created a life. You say that you are young, and I would assume that she is too. You have obviously expressed your feelings and wishes regarding this situation. You need to talk to her about her choices. If she chooses to have the child how will that decision affect her and her future? Is she ready for a lifetime commitment and providing the attention a baby requires? Would she be able to provide for the child financially? Where would she and the child live? If she chooses to have the child you may not be there for them but she can go to court, try to prove you’re the father and get child support orders if you in fact are the father. I suggest you just talk to her about it; talk about how both options would affect both of your lives. I wouldn’t say things like, "you know I have this other girl and I don't want her to find out..." because while that may be true, it is severely insensitive and really has nothing to do with what is going on with her; that is a completely separate issue… Good luck.
2007-02-20 07:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by enigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this even a real question? Seriously?
Ok, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.
Number One, Under no circumstances can you tell a woman what she can or can't do with her body. It's her choice, not yours.
Number 2, It takes two to tango. If she has the baby, and you are the father, YOU are responsible for supporting that baby until the child turns 18. By "support" I am referring to financial support as well as actually being a father in the child's life. YOU are responsible for bringing the child into the world. YOU are responsible for raising it. If you can't handle that kind of responsibility, you should think about that before you go "creepin' in da club."
2007-02-20 07:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me tell you not everyone has to have someone on the side. You are obviously still a child and should not be involved in a relationship with anybody. Second you can not tell this young lady to have an abortion. It is her body and hers to choose what to do with. If you didn't want a child you should have thought about that before you decided to have sex. There are several consequences to sex and one of them happens to be the possibility of having a baby. If you are not ready for that responsibility stop sleeping around or figure out what causes that and protect yourself along with the poor girl you are now going to crap on and walk away from. This girl has every right to nail you to the wall for child support for the next 18 years. If you were adult enough to sleep with her be a man and step up to your problems.
2007-02-20 07:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo not all guys have sidechicks sorry if my husband had one his a** would be kicked to the side and that is curbside.No you can't force her to have an abortion and you ever heard the saying you play you pay.. You should not have cheated on your g/f and i hope she finds out to tell you the truth..And to tell you the truth you need to go back to school because the way you write you are a hoodrat..Illiterate as heck
2007-02-20 06:49:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the girl a favour, give her what money you are prepared to give her and leave her alone. Whether she has an abortion or not is absolutely none of your business. You're only choice was to be responsible when it came to contraception, you clearly chose not to so what happens happens, it's out of your hands now. You clearly don't care for this young woman or the child so the less you have to do with them the better for everybody.
2007-02-20 07:26:55 · answer #6 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force an abortion, all you can do is demand a DNA test to see who the father is if she does have it...and to be honest, maybe if black men like yourself would go to school, work, and make a decent living instead of shaming Dr. Martin Luther King like you're doing, then you wouldn't have to settle for nasty hoodrats. You reap what you sow, and I don't feel sorry for you or the girl. And you totally live up to your screen name.
2007-02-20 06:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually u dont love your girl. u might like her a lot but u diffiently dont love her if u gotta chic on the side and she pregnant witcha baby. nawl dont abort it. u did the do so u needa be a man and raise the child. and u gotta be a man and tell the girl u "love" that u got anotha female pregnant and have to deal wit her reaction because u did this to yourself nobody told u to do it. so u have a lot of decisions to make but either way the guilt is not gonna go away.
2007-02-20 07:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by juicy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See my point?Now if you were doing right,this problem would not exist & there would be no innocent child involved!
You are a nasty ,disgusting creep & a murderer.No child should ever have a father like you,or a mother who "creeps" like the dad does also!
It is called whores & whoremongers & God condemns this behaviour.
If you tell this girl to get an abortion,then you are both murderers!
2007-02-20 06:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by Frogmama2007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fortunately, it's not your choice. Personally, I'd offer to pay the full amount as it's cheaper than child support. I hope you get a disease that can't be cured. You obviously don't respect yourself or any member of the opposite sex. That is, if you're for real. It sounds like you just enjoy drama. Good luck (baby daddy)
2007-02-20 06:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋