My boyfriend's ex is accusing him of being the father of her now 2 week old son. He tells me that the time SHE SAYS she concieved he wasn't with her and I believe him. He says he wasn't "with" her for a full 2 weeks before the conception date because they broke up. However, just in case it is his he went and paid for a paternity test, set up the date, and even offered to give her a ride to the place to get the test done and she keeps coming up with excuses not to go. He even rescheduled the first appointment for her because she said she wanted her mom to go with her and her mom had to work and then when the 2nd appt. rolled around she wasn't feeling well enough to go. She told everybody and put him down for the whole nine months & now that he's offering her a test to prove it (which she can use against him to sue for child support in court) she seems to be trying to avoid it. Also, she's told him that he's not allowed to be around the baby.
2007-02-20 06:38:12 · 6 answers · asked by Babygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When he mentioned her talking bad about him throughout the pregnancy she told him that if he would "just drop the test and i won't say another word about it" Doesn't it seem like she's admiting that she lied?
2007-02-20 06:40:25 · update #1
He didn't want to do it through the mail because then it wouldn't be legal in a court of law so he paid for one that would be legal all over the U.S. in any court...
2007-02-20 08:02:08 · update #2
And my boyfriend is not a loser... if he was he wouldn't be trying to do the right thing by finding out for sure nor would he have tried to help her even though he didn't think it was his. And we were friends before so I knew all about everything before we got involved... you shouldn't assume that just because he's being accused of this that he's one of those bad guys who is a loser...
2007-02-20 08:05:03 · update #3
Seriously.. call Maury Povitch... He does one of these shows seemingly once a week. Plus since all they need for a DNA test is a skin cell from the inside of the mouth (Q-tip swab) you don't actually have to go anywhere, it can all be done thru the mail (not sure if such a test would have the same standing in court)
Tho if he offered to have the test done and said that he would do the responsible thing for the child if it does turn out to be his and she is still stalling I would be VERY suspicious.
2007-02-20 06:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lost in Merryland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like she lied, or really doesn't know who the father of the baby is. Since he has already paid for the test, wait to see if she does take him to court for child support and he can have the baby tested then to prove either way. She may just disappear on him and he won't be responsible at that time. Not to say she may try to find him later on for it. But, if it is his and he does want to be a part of his sons life, he may want to get a lawyer to have it proven either way and then fight for visitation or custody of his son.
2007-02-20 14:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, DNA can be obtained without going anywhere. I think that she might have serious doubts, if not know for sure that your bf is not the father, but angry at him. Second, if this is his baby she can't say whether or not he can see the child that is for a Judge to decide. Yes, if it is he should pay child support, but he should be able to see the baby unless a Judge or someone official rules against it. He needs to get a lawyer.
2007-02-20 14:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by tryin4freedom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think the girl is lying, especially if she keeps making excuses to go do the test. If she really wanted to prove he was the father, she would go and take the test. It's possible that she doesn't even know who the child's father is and doesn't want to be proved wrong. She's got issues.
2007-02-20 14:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by CHANTEL W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, brother, you chose a real loser as a BF. He needs to get a DNA test right away. Even if he isn't the father, he could have been. You need to think carefully about your relationship.
2007-02-20 14:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi
She is jealous of you.
She knows the child is not his.
2007-02-20 14:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by yakatang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋