I am 39 years old, and I have a wonderful little boy who will turn 5 in April. I am in a fairly happy marriage, we both have very good jobs (more fun than money) and we enjoy life in general. Yet now that I have almost come to the end of my fertile age, I feel I would miss out if I wouldn't have another child. I am worried about my son growing up alone, and about how our little family will be so little for ever. But I also know how much worries and work a baby brings, and that I already have trouble with depression. My age also brings higher risks for the baby, it might not be healthy (1 in 90 chance of having a baby with Downs Syndrome), and that would just about kill me. So many worries... what to do?
2007-02-20 06:35:23 · 3 answers · asked by karinatwork 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
if you and your partner have a happy loving relationship, a comfortable and enjoyable life and neither of you have a burning desire for more children, then why expand your 'little' family. A family only has to be loving not large to be successful! Dont feel pressured because of expectations that a child needs a sibling, your son will grow up happy and well adjusted as an only child and wont miss out on anything, except sibling rivalry! If you already feel worried about your ability to cope with the pressures of another baby, then you probably already have your answer, babies are hard work, and you and your husband and your son already have a wonderful life, which can be enriched in so many other ways than by extending your family. It is a tough choice, as a woman once that baby boat sails it rarely comes back and your feelings may have more to do with the loss of this option than with the desire to have another baby. Quality not quantity my dear, think about it, discuss it with your husband, make your choice and then embrace your destiny. All the best!
2007-02-20 06:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are right that the higher you age the greater the risks with complications. But if you research this subject you will find that even though the risk is higher it is still not that common to have a baby with complications. And they have all this advanced technology now that if you have any complications they can tell early enough for you to decide what you would like to do (i.e. abort the pregnancy or keep it and prepare yourself) I personally don't agree with abortion but it is an option and I thought you should know about it. I hope this information helps you somewhat.
2007-02-20 06:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say as long as you have any doubt at all, you shouldn't do it. It won't hurt your son to grow up with no siblings. I only have one child, he's fine.
2007-02-20 06:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋