how do i be a better friend???

Question

i love my friends (not in a sexuall way) but i dont think i am being a good enough friend to 3 of them what should i do to be a better friend??? i would do anything for them that they ask but it still doesnt seem like enough???

Answer 1

Sometimes I feel like this, too. Just try to be there for them when they need it. Remember the big things that are happening to them (for example, go to their sports games or call them afterwards.) Or help them in little ways, like offering to carry some of their stuff, etc. Go out together (movies, swimming, etc.) But make sure that you're paying attention to yourself, too.

Let them know how you feel. But chances are, they already think that you're a great friend and you just don't realize it. <3

Answer 2

First off, i am not really sure what you are referring to, but i am thinking that you might want to reflect on what a good friend is to you. Then think to yourself why these friends seem ungrateful or whatever the situation, why you feel like you could be a better friend. I am thinking that you shouldn't have to map out what you should or should not do to be a better friend, if it is a real friendship, which by the way, we only have maybe 2 or 3 real ones in our lives, and one of those is most likely a family member, then you shouldn't have to make such an effort. Having a friend is being a friend, whether it is giving of ones self, sharing important events, or taking part in creating a life time of significant memories. I'm not saying that you guys aren't real friends, but I am saying that maybe you have the wrong type of friends. Usually, in my opinion, the type of friends that i accept in my life, are the kinds that i can be silly in front of, stupid in front of, down, happy, and that i can be myself in front of, mostly people I trust with my every being. I don't want to have to hide who i am or embellish upon that to make them appreciate or accept me. So maybe just ask yourself, are these people that you really would like to keep in your lives as you change throughout your cycle of life? People change, opinions change, but i guess throughout time the friendships we have, hopefully get stronger, and if not then we have to learn to let them go and accept them for the lessons that we've learned while we had them. Life is a journey and in my opinion when it becomes kind of a burden to have the friends we have then that friendships not worth having. good luck.
Lauren

Answer 3

take em out to movies give em advice buy them stuff they need teach em what they wanna learn whatever you do should be involved with u being there for them thats the best way you can be a friend, thats what friendship is all about right?

Answer 4

You sound like a good enough friend to me.

Answer 5

Ask them to go do fun things with you. Give them sincere compliments. Ask them about themselves. People love to talk about themselves more than they like to listen to other people talk. Ask them out for coffee or a coke.

Answer 6

You don't have to be a better friend so hard and just be yourself.
If you are so, they must admire you are nice. Don't try so hard. I don't think it would be a good idea you do anything for your friend they ask.
When they really need your help, then you must try to help them. Don't try to be so hard to be a better friend.

Answer 7

Be a good listener. Call them to chat. Spend time with them. Keep their secrets, be someone they can trust.

Answer 8

Try to be supportive in whatever they do and try to stear them in the right dirrection whenever you think they going to make big mistake

Answer 9

honesty serves reality a real friend needs real feedback. Doing anything for them is not a real friend, it's a real enabler.

Answer 10

if you do anything for them it seems like that enough you don't wont them to take advantage of them