I dont know what to do?? Ever since I have had my son 17 mo ago my sex drive has gone to zero. My sons father is complaining and I want to keep him happy but I just dont have the drive anymore. Before I had my son my sex drive was very high and I know he misses this and I do to but I just dont know what to do. Please help!!
2007-02-20 05:57:34 · 16 answers · asked by oneluv804 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would examine several aspects of your life when trying to figure this out. What is your stress level like? Are you having other relationship problems? Is your sons father helping you with your child? Are you over worked with family and job responsibilities? It could be more than just "your" problem, or "your" sex drive. Many of us women just take on to much, and it is okay to ask for help. Especially when you are a new mother. I have two children, a pre-schooler and my oldest is going to be nine, and some days I still feel like I am chasing my tail. Motherhood is the toughest and most admirable job you will ever have.
Maybe your baby's Daddy needs to look to himself for the solution. What can he do to take some pressure/stress away from you. Is he fulfilling your emotional needs as well. I think it sounds like you are being a little hard on yourself. Having a child is life changing, and I know it seems like a year and a half is a long adjustment period and things should be getting back to normal, but the fact of the matter is life is and should be completely different now that you are a parent. This includes your relationships, on an emotional and an intimate level. If you truly feel like it is not any of these external factors, than maybe it is hormonal/medical. Just be patient, and you will get to the bottom of it. If your Honey truly loves you, he will be patient to. Good Luck!
2007-02-20 06:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by NeNe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know much about post partum depression, however I know a good amount about what goes into sex. The majority of men have a huge sex drive. However, a good number of men don't achieve the amount of sex needed to satisfy their sex drive. A major part of this is not meeting his significant others needs. A woman typically needs affection in non-sexual ways to be stimulated to give their mate what they are looking for. Both of these go hand in hand usually. There is an extremely good book I recommend on this subject it is called, "His Needs Her Needs". It teaches Men and women about how to meet the needs their mate needs. It is designed to be read as a couple and could help to even this out. Also to understand a man's fight with sexual temptation I would recommend "Every Man's Battle: Sexual Immorality"
2007-02-20 06:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by David J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is actually normal. It is because your body is not in a reproductive cycle but rather a nurturing cycle. Your sex drive may never be what it once was but you can always talk to your doctor about it. There are some hormones used to help up your sex drive. Just a thought, hope it all works out for you.
2007-02-20 06:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by Fugita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your doctor. There are things for women to boost it up. Some women have a horrible time with their sex drive after having babies. It will eventually return to normal, but in the mean time, go see your doctor for sure.
2007-02-20 06:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult a Sex Therapist.
2007-02-20 06:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After we have a baby our sex drive changes. If you can you should talk to your doctor about this. Also at times if you are on any medication that will also change your sex drive.
2007-02-20 06:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My infant is 4 months and on the commencing up once I have been given out of hospital we did it in the present day away like rabbits lol. Now some week until eventually now my era I even have incredibly undesirable cramps too, so no intercourse then yet after my era yep i desire it consistently lower back lol.
2016-09-29 09:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go see the Doctor if I were you. You ladies go through alot of hormonal changes before/after a birth. You do need to get this looked into for both your sakes.
2007-02-20 09:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to either talk to your doctor or see a Sex Therapist.
2007-02-20 06:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by leecarh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i hear ya! i have a three-year old. before and during my pregnancy, my libido was on an all-high. however my partner wouldn't even touch me during my pregnancy. after the baby was born i lost my drive....and is still down...i do it out of routine just to please him, every day less and less. sometimes i feel like a robot.
in my case i just stopped wanting to try.
but you keep trying ok???
2007-02-20 06:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by jjcrushed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋