Is it wrong to think about what could of been??
2007-02-20 05:38:46 · 10 answers · asked by Latin Beauty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why think of the past? Where is that going to get you in life? I think if you worry about the past you have no room for the future and the possibilities that lie before you. If you keep living in the past you can miss opportunities that are right in front of you. Why don't you think about what can be right now, instead of what could have been. I used to think about the past, however I have found it has gotten me nowhere in life. It has only made me miserable and held me back from the amazing things I can do in life right this second.
2007-02-20 05:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by dazed and confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human beings put much ado on "right" or "wrong." If you are the kind of person who spends more time than "average" contemplating the branches of the past, then it is in your nature to do so. There is no right or wrong to it.
And the past will ALWAYS affect the present since they are one and the same thing, and not separated by anything other than perspective. The past IS the present.
The difference is in how you choose to interpret and actualize your past experiences in the present. There is no "getting over it" so to speak. Only through contemplation of the "past" can we develop the ability to make more salient choices in the present.
Keep past learning experiences in mind as you maintain your attention on the now. Stay frosty contemplator. :)
2007-02-20 07:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by Avatar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with thinking of the past, as long as it doesn't interfere with your present or your future. I find myself having nice, nostalgic memories from time to time. I also wonder what might have been if my life had taken another direction. However, I wouldn't change anything. You have to find happiness in who you are now, no regrets.
2007-02-20 05:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sophie832 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write it down on a piece of paper, think about why you took the path that you did, be thankful for the lessoned you learned on the journey, and burn it. Once it's burned you can move on with being happy with who you are, or making the changes that you want to make to become the person you want to be.
If you don't like you, why should any one else? Love yourself first, everything else will fall into place.
2007-02-20 05:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by Robert L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong to think of what might have been. Just don't dwell on it that is wrong & can be damaging.
2007-02-20 10:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be wrong in some situations (such as fantasizing about ur ex while ur with ur new beau) but its perfectly natural and theres nuthin u can do but perhaps learn from past mistakes.
2007-02-20 05:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by SiC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got the same problem. a while back my ex wanted to get married and i procrastinated and she left. now i have regrets, but i do think about it and wish things were different. then i think about why i did not marry her and i am back to where i need to be. its normal, now u need a new beau.
2007-02-20 11:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by david w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's called having regrets. Everyone has them! The key is to get over them.
2007-02-20 05:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's like piloting a boat and watching the wake
pay attention to what's coming up!
2007-02-20 05:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a good idea because whats done is done the only thing you can do now is don't do the same thing again.
2007-02-20 05:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋