im 18 and i use to get bullyed in primary and secondary school.i made 1 friend in primary school and secondary school i made 2 friends but one of my friends is 17 nearly 18 and my other is 15 they are sisters.well we had diffrent timetables so we didnt see eachother much.and at college i made 2 friends but one just likes going to pubs and the other one busy alot.well im currently at the training centure and people talk to me but i get this feeling that they dont realy like me.
the rule at the centure if you bully people there you get kicked out.iv been to youth clubs,there not many clubs out there we can go to,at the training centure and youth club i do talk to people as much as i can.i feel like giving up,i have my bf whos my friends and my boyfriend.
2007-02-20 05:19:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
rule of thumb is you have to be a friend to have a friend
don't give up...just keep communicating with people and you will find friends
don't expect one person to fill all of your bored hours...that is why it is good to have more than one or two friends
when you feel like going to the pub, you have a friend to do that with
now go out and make a friend with someone else who has similar interests like you do
don't expect it to happen over night...but it will happen...just don't give up on yourself
be cool...
2007-02-20 05:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT tell her you are depressed cause of her the last thing you want to do right now is guilt trip her into feeling bad for you and stuff because trust me no girls like that. just tell her you know i have been really upset recently and i think id feel better if we started hanging out again. show her the kind of guy you are dont act sad when you guys are together but do fun stuff and make her realize how awesome you are. im not saying shes going to fall for you i cant promise that but at least if you tell her the first part youll be spending more time together so youd have more of a chance!
2016-05-23 23:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are going through, because I had a hard time myself. I was shy and awkward. You have to put yourself into situations, no matter how uncomfortable for you, that FORCE you to interact with people. It doesn't matter what it is. Join some groups in whatever you are interested in. When someone asks you to do something with them, agree to do it even if your first instinct is to pass. Sometimes people would invite me to a party or something and I would turn them down. I would think "I wouldn't know anyone, and it doesn't really sound like my kind of thing, plus I am tired..." But I found that when you do that people who might otherwise be interested in you decide to give up. They get the message that you aren't interested, even if you are and you just aren't interested in that one event. So when someone invites you out, go ahead and do it, even if you think you might not enjoy it. Also, look for excuses to invite other people. I would have trouble asking someone to do something just at random, but if they mentioned in passing something like "I really want to see ____ movie", I might jump in and say something like "Oh yeah, I am really pumped to see that, I was going to do so on Friday, you wanna come?"
Just be patient, do those things and eventually you will find yourself with friends. Maybe not a huge group, but a tight knit circle is all you need.
2007-02-20 05:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jack R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get a friend is to be a friend. It's really true but it may take time. Projecting a positive image of yourself will make a big difference too, even if you're not feeling it.
I used to think I was ugly when I was younger and had trouble making friends...turns out it was all in my head!
Think positive and things will get better. Promise.
2007-02-20 05:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by chica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u feel peeps dont like u cause u were bulleyed my son is going through the same thing now u need to understand that most people are not like that it too bad this **** happens u sound smart why would u let this bring u down u need to find your good stuff to help your esteem ull be ok make the first move talk to someone invite them to a movie and youll see how people are not out to hate on you.
2007-02-20 05:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kk lady its not that hard making a friend think of it this way:
they're just people you dont know yet, so you gotta get to know em oya when your trying to make an impression on someone you have to be outgoing its very important and if you wanna get to know the person good first then you should ask a weird question but nothing gross it should spark up a conversation works for me! n_n
2007-02-20 06:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by UndeadNitemare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are worth much more than the bullies. Be yourself and be happy. We all feel the way you are from time to time (and I'm 35). Look after yourself and take care. Email me any time you are feeling a bit low.
2007-02-20 05:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by Awl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most folk only have a few good friends but loads of acquaintances, there's a big difference as you'll learn, so good luck and choose wisely.
2007-02-20 05:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by richiesown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think that u need to be more open to people. i feel that u r shy and dont feel comfortable with others.
if u really like some one then just go and ask them to be ur friends
2007-02-20 05:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
build your self confidence and let it shine thro,if you are really quiet it maybe hard for ppl to get to know u but if ya hold your head up high you'll make loads of new pals.....good luck.
2007-02-20 05:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by kasey c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋