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Who's opinion do you support:
Woman A - whenever she takes a bath she takes it with her 5 month old in a full size tub.
Woman B - She never allows her 5 month old into the tub with her. Her child is always bathed in an infant bath.

Assume at 1 yr of age this is still what they are doing.

2007-02-20 05:00:14 · 26 answers · asked by ♫Hope♫ 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting Newborn & Baby

26 answers

Wow, I'm surprised so many people still have hangups about kids seeing them naked or learning about the body-- I'd thought that we might have gotten over that at least a little from the Baby Boomer generation.

I think either is fine, at any age up until the parent and/or child becomes uncomfortable with it. My children all know what their (and their parents') body parts are. What's so scary about a child knowing that their father has a penis, or mother has breasts and a vagina?

As far as the original opinion poll, I'd say I lean more towards A--openness and sharing a bath during infancy/toddlerhood, than B, which I perceive as somewhat puritanical. But neither is black and white. I did both with all of my babies; whatever was most convenient at the time, or sometimes adding the baby to my own bath was a spontaneous decision when the baby just wouldn't be comforted by hubby as long as I'd hoped for. I don't have a problem with my youngest, who is a few months shy of turning 3, climbing into the bath with me once in a while still. She still sees my breasts as the previous source of her food & comfort, having nursed until around 2 years old. They don't seem out of place or like strange appendages or anything, they're just... there.

FWIW, most of my children have decided to become "modest" between age 5-7. Although I have an almost 8 y/o son who has yet to develop that particular social more. My 5 & almost 3 y/o daughters couldn't care in the least if they walk into our room without knocking (although we do teach them manners, at that age they don't always make the right choice) and find either one of us undressed. Hubby will cover up quickly and surreptitiously, as though he was about to do that anyway, so it doesn't look like he is trying to hide something shameful. I will usually walk into the master bath as though I'm getting into the shower or still need to do something in there, but not just hang out stark naked while the child is asking their question or tattling or whatever. The older children don't really want to chance seeing us naked with their more developed modesty, so they generally remember to knock first.

2007-02-20 06:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by LaundryGirl 4 · 1 0

Its personal choice. Either one is fine. I have 2 kids ages 13 and 9 months I have NEVER bathed with either and never plan on it. I also raised both my nephews now ages 15 and 17 and 2 godchildren ages 13 and 1 and never bathed w any of them felt no need to. However I know ppl that bathe with their children its really no ones business. Until the child is old enough to question and the parent isnt comfortable batheing with the child it really doesnt matter. To the lady saying 5 months is to early to be in an adult tub because the child can not sit that well, this is true in most cases which is why there are those baby seats. However my son was sitting unsupported at 5 months of age but then again he's developing at the 11 month age level of his birth peers and was a month premature just depends on the child but I didnt start letting him into the adult tub without the help of a bathchair he sits in until he was 7 months.

2007-02-20 05:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0 0

I always bathe with my daughter. She's 8 months old. My husband and I take turns. There is nothing more calming, beautiful and relaxing for her and us. We spend time together as a family. As soon as her cord dried up we put her in the full size tub. It calmed her(it's like the womb) and kept her warm. There's nothing worse than hearing a newborn scream because she's cold. We found the blue infant tubs awkward and foreign. I don't think that there is anything wrong with this practice. Nudity is not an issue in our house and I hope that it never is. When she chooses to bathe alone she can. I do agree that there comes a time when we won't bathe together. But that won't happen for a long time yet

2007-02-20 06:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by jenniferm 2 · 0 0

It all depends on the sex of the child and personal preference. Also at 5 months old, I don't see anything wrong with bathing with your child no matter what the sex is? I only bathed with my son once when he was only a couple months old because it calmed him down because he was deathly afraid of the bath. Once the child gets older, it really should stop if it is a mother and a son or a father and a daughter because they will start asking questions that you may not want to answer, but that would normally be around 2 1/2 or 3 years old.

2007-02-20 05:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

A. My son is 15 months old, and we bathe together for safety and comfort. It's safer because I'm right there and he can't tip me over like he can the bath ring. It's more comfortable than me trying to lean over the tub to wash him (we don't have the counter space for a baby tub).

Another bonus is that my son doesn't have the fear of the "big tub" that some toddlers have. The bath tub is a friendly place where he can play with mom or dad, float around, and feel good.

Someday, I'm sure he'll want to bathe alone, and that'll be just fine. For now, we'll keep getting clean together.

2007-02-20 05:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by craftladyteresa 4 · 2 0

well all depends.... in a bath you would have to have a very low water level if the child is in there so it would get kinda cold lol.... maybe if a child bath seat was attached to the bottom of the tub that might be a little bit more safer. I don't see a problem with mom and child baths...
it might be easier to give a bath in a child tub because its more convenient? but I'm not sure if they are for children up to 1 year in age???
i might have to say go with woman A because having a child is very time consuming and we hardly get baths so why not kill 2 birds with 1 stone :)

2007-02-20 05:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by missmeliss 2 · 1 0

There is nothing wrong with bathing together with your child. Kids typically do not retain memory before 2 years of age. Now.. 5 month is WAY TOO YOUNG to be in an adult tub, with or without adults. They can't even sit well yet, just not a safe idea. We start washing our kids in the big tub once they can stand & walk.

2007-02-20 05:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 0 0

Woman A. ive been taking baths with my baby since her cord fell off, i mean i bathe her in a infant bath when i don't feel like getting in but for the most part i take them with her. its a really nice bonding experience because you can let your baby float around in the water and kick and have fun which is something she cant do in an infant tub. i think there is an age to stop like at a year, but if anyone says its inappropriate to bathe with your own child they are weird to begin with

2007-02-20 05:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by baileysmommy06 3 · 0 0

I get in the tub with my daughter when I give her a bath, although I will be transitioning out of the tub soon b/c she is old enough to sit on her own. I don't see a problem with going in with the child, since to me it seems safer. But, is Woman A actually bathing herself as well? I think that could be bad b/c 1. she could be distracted while cleaning herself, and 2. the soap that the mom uses may be too rough for the baby. Also you don't technically NEED to bathe the baby, especially one so young, as often as yourself, and doing so may dry the baby's skin out.

2007-02-20 05:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by IDon'tWantToLiveOnTheMoon 2 · 1 0

Either way is fine. It all depends on what the mom is comfortable with. As long as both are getting bathed every day, it doesn't really matter...does it?

Personally, I bathed my daughter in the infant tub til she could sit up, then started taking her into the shower with me til she was 4 years old.

2007-02-20 05:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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