i just found out that im going to have a baby and my boyfriend wants me to move in with him, but he still lives with his parents and they want me to move in to. but they always have people at their house and they really only speak spanish which i really dont understand not to mention i really dont wat my baby to grow up speaking spanish fluently
2007-02-20 04:53:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would advise against it - if you already have some place to live. If something should happen where you break up, you have no legal ground to claim anything, no matter what you put into the relationship. Only married couples have a legal basis to claim money or objects in the event of a separation or divorce, as any court will tell you.
As for the speaking Spanish, having a baby that could speak Spanish and English (bi-lingual) is a plus in today's world. Their are more opportunities in the job market for people who speak more than one language. That is why a lot of other countries require students to learn a 2nd, 3rd, or even 4th language. It is also easier to learn a language as a child and your child could help translate for you in the future.
2007-02-20 05:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound very young! Ok, so you've said everything that other people in your life want...what about you? What about your parents? What do you want to do? Just b/c you are pregnant does not mean you have to move in with him or get married. If you are close to your parents, talk to them about it. I'm sure you will need your mother's help. If not, then you decide what is best for you and your baby. But I tell you this: do NOT be like a revolving door and take your baby in and out of his/her father's life. You want to decide on a place that will be a stable environment - that is what your baby will need.
Secondly, what is wrong with your baby knowing Spanish? Now days more and more people are flocking to the United States, A LOT of them are from Central America - there are more and more people speaking Spanish now than ever, can you imagine how many people will be speaking Spanish in our country when your baby is an adult? Speaking and learning another language is very GOOD for your baby. It's educational. Knowledge is power hun! Don't EVER stop your child from learning!
2007-02-20 13:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depends on what your other options are. Personally, since your boyfriend is apparently Hispanic, and you plan on his being in your baby's life, I'd suggest you start learning Spanish whatever you decide to do about moving in. Why wouldn't you want your baby to be bilingual? Do you have any idea how much of an advantage that is in today's world economy? Do you have any idea how many companies are begging for bilingual employees at all levels? You got pregnant by a Hispanic boy, this is your reality, sweetie, go with it, take advantage of it, wherever you live.
2007-02-20 17:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no and no. If you are a pregnant teen, this idea will only make things worse. The chances of this guy being your husband is slim. Stay at home finish school for real, meaning no GED's and get yourself to college. Playing house is not going to help either you or your baby. Do you want your life to be filled with 20 relatives living in the same house? Do you want the American dream or the Mexican dream? I'm sure they are nice people, but it seems you are not ok with their traditions and way of doing things. Things won't change if you move in. Go to your parents and talk. Tell them you need help with what to do.
2007-02-20 14:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you don't sound ready to be a mother! If you are mature enough to have sex and get pregnant, you are mature enough to take care of yourself.
Find an apartment and you BOTH have to grow up real fast and be adults, not living with "mommy and daddy." Your single carefree life is over forever!
BTW, if you speak English to the baby and everyone else speaks Spanish, the baby will be bilingual. My daughter & son-in-law are doing that.
Of course, there's always ADOPTION - that would be much better for the baby!
2007-02-20 13:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Dizney 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking us what to do then I doubt you are ready for that. Also, why wouldn't you want your child to speak another language? It is part of their heritage, and it is a definite plus in today's world. Sounds like you are quite young but since you are already pregnant, you need to make some quick decisions in order to properly take care of a baby. I hope everything works out.
2007-02-20 12:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I say repent, go to church and raise the best Christian child you can. And then teach other teens the consequences of not doing things the way God instructed.
We are Gods children and he loves us dearly. he is not a child abuser so to speak. He set rules for our own good. Much like telling a child not to play with fire.
Single parenthood is the leading cause of poverty in America as well as crime.
God bless!
2007-02-20 14:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I think that your baby being bilingual would be an advantage to him/her and future career options. If his parents are willing to help you two our, and you are comfortable with living there, then go ahead and try it out. Only you can know what is best for you and your baby.
2007-02-20 13:49:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not move in. Never live with your boyfriend and his parents. You two should have waited to have a child until you were out on your own and married.
2007-02-20 13:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by unknown2u 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should move in with him, and i think its great that your child will learn how to speak 2 languages fluently!! Its wonderful that they want to have you there, they don't have to. They seem really nice people to want you to live with them,so go ahead.
2007-02-20 13:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by wonder 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋