i just found out that im going to have a baby and my boyfriend wants me to move in with him, but he still lives with his parents and they want me to move in to. but they always have people at their house and they really only speak spanish which i really dont understand not to mention i really dont wat my baby to grow up speaking spanish fluently
2007-02-20 04:53:48 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I don't believe in living together before marriage. Why wouldn't you want your baby to know spanish fluently. A second language is such a gift to give any child. Children that grow up knowing more than one language often have an advantage over other children. Same with learning music. It forces the brain to expand it's way of thinking and often results in smarter children. It's also part of your babies herritage.
2007-02-20 04:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay I gotta ask...what does your parents think of this? This is a really big deal, and 'moving in' is not going to be the solution. Have you and your boyfriend sat down and discussed this at length? Is is ready to step up to the plate and take care the both of you? If you feel uncomfortable with your boyfriend's family language, then maybe you should consider not moving in. Just explain to your boyfriend how you feel about it before it gets blown out of proportion. You could still stay at your parent's house and your boyfriend could still come over and all until the baby is born and you both have some type of plan. But it will be a good thing that your child can get use to Spanish and English, I've always considered a child that can speak more than one language is brilliant!
But please think of future, about maintaining some sort of financial ground for your family... seek help with a pregnancy crisis center in your locality. Good luck to you both.
2007-02-20 05:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by gokusgirl_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think moving in with the parents is a good idea. I think it causes peoblems. You will be the outsider first of all. Second if you get into a fight his family will most likely take his side and make you feel like your arguement was out of line. Third anything you say or do will be scrutinized because well it is not your family or house. I moved in my bf's parents for 7 months not realizing what a bad mistake I had made until it was too late. He and I were not getting along, when i was at work he was venting to his Mom and Dad. By the time I got home I could see the way they were looking at me. Well, needless to say the Mother thought she would it upon herself and tell me including a bi!ch. I didnt talk to his family for a year and a half. Things have not been the same since and we use to get along so good. So from experience I say no. I also lived with another guys parents and well they ended up the same way. If you do end up living with them dont do it long it will change your relationship with him and your realtionship with his parents. With a baby coming along you dont need the added stress.
2007-02-20 05:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by Megan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..given your situation, it sounds like a good idea. The baby will be with his/her father and mother at the same time, and with grand parents...which i'm sure already love the baby very much..especially since they want you to move in. They're probably just trying to make things easier for you and most importantly support the baby. As for speaking Spanish..nothing wrong with a baby speaking spanish fluently...that's actually a good thing considering it allows for more future job options and/or managerial jobs etc (assuming the baby speaks english fluently as well..again assuming you're in america).
~G
2007-02-20 04:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Dorkus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide whether or not you feel comfortable in a situation like that or not. If you don't feel comfortable then don't do it. The most important thing is that you and your baby in a comfortable and loving environment. Now depending on were you are now moving in with your boyfriend may be the best option for you. And about the speaking spanish thing. You should encourage your child to be bilingual he/she will only benefit. I wish i could peal spanish!
2007-02-20 05:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you want your child to learn spanish? It is a part of his/her heritage just as much as English. Teach the baby both. It is actually a proven fact that children who grow up bilingual do much better in academics. As for moving in with him at his parents home, no, I don't think that's a good idea. I live with inlaws. Trust me it's not a good thing. You need to stay at home or move out with your b/f somewhere on your own.
2007-02-20 04:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by kiera70 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Might I ask why you don't want the child to speak Spanish? Being bi-lingual is an asset. Trust me on this....You'll appreciate all the help you'll have with the baby if you move into your boy friends parents house. Remember, it takes a village to raise a child!
2007-02-20 04:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by Robin M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would think the father would want to get out from underneath his parents especially now that hes got a kid coming. If hes made a baby he needs to be responsible for his actions. I think it would be ok to move in for a little while but honestly he needs to work on getting yall a place of your own, even if its just an apartment or something. Living with his family for ever is not gonna work! He needs to be a real man and do what is right! I know ya'll arent married but still he helped make that child so he needs to take some responsiblities! goodluck i hope everything works out!
2007-02-20 05:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by socialdeelite1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do not mention any of this mans attributes (besides that he is bi-lingual). Speaking two languages is a great thing, but not enough reason to live with someone. Having babies are hard, but to live with someone that you do not love is worse. If you love him and you think that your relationship will go somewhere...then I guess you would not be asking you would be packing...... If you are in doubt, why????? Is it because you yourself come from a broken home? If you are afraid because of that then I suggest that you both go to counseling (with a local church even) and find out if you are indeed compatible.... NEVER stay with a man because you are afraid or because you are lonely, only if YOU LOVE HIM!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-20 05:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by Kimberlee Ann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it might be a good idea to move with your bf, but I dont think it is a good idea for the baby to be around people that speak spanish if you dont want it to,
I think that it is going to have to be your call on what you do.
Are you going to marry this man? (since you have a baby coming)
Good luck!
2007-02-20 05:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by Devyn C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋