OK sooo I planned to visit my friend in April for spring break, already bought my ticket and told my family etc. However, we started talking about how we should live together. At first we were just messing around but then we really discussed everything. And sooner or later we found an Apartment for a reasonable price. My friend paid for the 1st months rent & security deposit. I'm in the process of buying furniture. That was our deal, she meet with the landlord and pay for the Apartment etc & I buy all the house stuff. I have not told my family about me moving to NY. I really don't know how to tell them. I am 18 so it's really my decision. I was thinking about just calling them on the date that I'm supposed to fly back home & telling them that my stay is permanent and that I wont be coming back for a while. That would be a bit easier and I am leaning towards doing that. But then a part of me wants to break the news to them a week before I fly. HELP!!! I don't know what to do. :(
2007-02-20 04:32:54 · 5 answers · asked by elizabeth h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would say that you should let them know right away. You are really going to hurt them by waiting. You should tell them that you have decided that your future is in New York and you have made plans to make a go of it. Tell them about your apartment and then let them know how you plan to afford to live there.
They are going to ask a lot of questions. Where are you going to work? Can you really afford to live in New York? Are you going to go to college or just start working?
I hope you have fully thought this through. You do not want to back out at some point and leave your friend without furniture or help with the rent.
As a New Yorker I can say that you will love living in New York.
Take care and Good Luck,
Troy
2007-02-21 03:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell them now. The sooner the better. If your mind is made up, and everything is already in the works....no worries about them changing your mind. I definitely would not suggest doing it after you are already there. It isn't fair to them. Let them give you a proper goodbye. If you leave and they are thinking it is just a vacation....that isn't fair to them. I don't know how close you are to your family but regardless, let them have the time that they deserve with you before you leave. They may want to do something special. They could be very supportive of you, and want to help out. You just never know until you give them that chance.
2007-02-20 04:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know soon. There will be things that your family will want to discuss with you. They might try to convince you to come back but if you really want to stay in NY then assure them that you will be okay and that you have things planned out. They will have to know and its best to tell them before hand. You'll be hurting you family if you dont let them know beforehand.
2007-02-20 04:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by Blood&Wine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait too long to tell them - you don't want to hurt them. So, even though it is difficult, tell them soon. If you end up hurting them, that will complicate your relationship later. Being honest and forthright, however, will be better regarded by everyone later on. So - suck it up, be strong and do the right thing. And enjoy your new life in NYC!
2007-02-20 04:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by Steven D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'M OUT OF HERE!
2007-02-20 04:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Love Pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋