Well Im 24 will be 25 in Oct this year. I just found out a couple weeks that I am pregnant. Me and my boyfriend are totally happy and can not wait for out little one to get here. But I still have not told my parents. I know they will be disappointed becasue me and my boyfriend are not married yet. Is there anyone that has/had this same problem. How did you tell your parents..Was there reaction bad. What's a good way to tell them. Just wondering. And thanks in advance for the serious replies on this question and for the stupid..ignorate replies get a life and grow up..
2007-02-20 04:22:08 · 27 answers · asked by miss lady 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You know what? You are 24 years old! I don't think your parents will be as dissapointed as you think they would! They will probably be very, very happy! Even if they kinda, sorta seem a little disappointed...that will go away as soon as you start to show. Then reality will hit that they will be GRANDPARENTS! They will love it! Congratulations and good luck!!!
2007-02-20 04:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by cutesy76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had lived much of my life doing what my parents wanted. I graduated from college in May and discovered in September, after starting a new career, that my boyfriend of 7 years and I were expecting. I was so scared to tell them at first because I knew they would be disappointed. I had plans of getting a PhD and buying a home, but now everything was going off-track. I finally told them when I was almost 4 months, but to lessen the shock, I also mentioned that my boyfriend (now my fiancee) and i were saving money monthly in preparation for the baby and any other unforeseen disasters. We both managed our money a lot better (even with student loans and bills, we have plenty left over) and realizing how supportive my fiancee was really lessened my parents' fears. This will be the first grandchild for both sides of our family and everyone is ecstatic now. I've come to the realization that while my plans for my ambitious future have changed, they are not diminished, and my parents understand that as well. Their disappointment really didn't last long! I wish you the best of luck. Your parents will love you and the baby no matter what.
2007-02-20 04:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by keonli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 and my b/f is 22 and we are expecting in May, we are planning on getting married next year, but we have been living together for a while and couldn't be happier, so who really cares if were married? How much would really change? No hurry. His mother wanted us to get married as soon as she found out we were having a baby, but we had to bust her bubble, why get married when your pregnant, I know that I definitely don't feel too attractive! Not to mention, how can you enjoy the reception?? Take your time and wait til the time is right! My mom had to tell my dad and he was concerned with the marriage issue also, but not to worry because soon enough he was very happy. I was really paranoid to tell my parents because I knew they would be happy but I also knew that they would have some negative things(marriage and not finishing college) to say at 1st. Just tell them, be confident about it, and if they have something to say that you don't want to hear, then just brush it off your shoulder!!
2007-02-20 04:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them, let it out. I felt that way when I was pregnant with my daughter telling my mom. My fiance' at the time and I were getting married in a couple of months and we found out that I was expecting. I was just like you so, I just said Mom I went t the doctor and I'm 7 weeks and my Mom just said well, I guess you will be a Mom. I didn't expect that reaction, but no matter what the reaction was I was pregnant, and having a baby. (so it didn't matter) She could have been mad. I really didn't care. I just wanted to respectfully tell her, so everyoine else would know and she didn't. When I told my Grandmother, she said she already knew, she was wondering if I knew. It all worked it-self out just as it will for you. Be Blessed!
2007-02-20 04:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by MrsE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you are having such a hard time announcing your pregnancy to your parents. They may be disappointed at first and then very excited for the arrival of their new grand child. I had a hard time telling my parents to. I was not married and only 18. So I just did it.... just sat them down and told them... hey mom, I am 2 months pregnant and we are very excited about the new addition we are expecting. When she looked disappointed, I said.... mom, I was hoping that you would be happy for us as well, however I am not asking you for anything, but when your ready to talk about this, I will be waiting.
Good luck to you. Gosh I know it's hard, but the stress isn't good for you as an expecting mother, just grab up your boyfriend, sit your parents down and make the announcement. You can do it.
2007-02-20 04:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though I have 3 girls already and I am almost 26 and married, when I found out was pregnant the last time(which ended up being ectopic) I still had a hard time telling my mom....actually I didn't tell her until they told me I had to have surgery.
My advice is to just tell them. With the previous pregnancies we always took are families out to dinner and broke the news that way. Each and everytime they were ecstatic even though we thought they would be upset.
2007-02-20 04:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by mom2ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my boyfriend were only together for about a month when I found out I was pregnant, I was really scared to tell my mom but once I did she was not happy about it about 1/2 way through my pregnancy she started getting to the point where she was more excited then me. They will get use to it may be hard at first but they will get use to it and be happy about their little grand child on the way.
2007-02-20 04:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by mommytobe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my daughter told me she was pregnant (also before she was married) I was very upset. After a couple of weeks though, I got over it. After all she was my daughter and I loved her. She ended up moving up her wedding and got married at 4 months. The marriage lasted only 4 years. Don't jump into a marriage just to please the parents! I have a beautiful 7 year old grandson now, and the fact that she wasn't married when she got pregnant is now a very distant memory. Good luck with your parents, even if they are upset at first their love for you will overshadow that.
2007-02-20 04:34:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fact of the matter is, you're a grown woman and not dependent on their approval any more. Make it very clear when you tell them the big news that YOU are happy, and expect for them to be as well. If they respond in a negative fashion, just tell them that "(boyfriend's name) and I are thrilled, and I hope you'll come around - I know you'll love your grandchild when s/he arrives." I hope you're pleasantly surprised by their reaction - by the time they have a 24-year-old daughter, I dare say most moms are thinking of grandchildren.
Good luck sharing the happy news, and congratulations on your pregnancy!
2007-02-20 04:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by ragmama210 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents should be happy if you and your boyfriend are happy. As long as you show them that you are okay with this, they should be too. They just want to know that your boyfriend will not leave you and the baby and will actually take care of you and do everything he can to make it as comfortable as possible. It seems like the two of you cant wait and that is very good
So give your parents that assurance and i think you will be fine
2007-02-20 04:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by Leelah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋