She has a brother in 7th grade too.
2007-02-20 04:18:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just be there for her. Ask if you can do anything to help. See if she and her brother want to go to dinner, the movies, the beach or something like that. Don't bring up the topic, but if she starts talking about her dad listen, be her shoulder to cry on, she'll be tankful to have someone to talk to!
God Bless!
2007-02-20 04:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by All 4 His Glory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to be cheered up. She may feel guilty if she is cheerful at this time. But you can comfort her. Get her a sympathy card and some flowers. Write your phone number on the card and let her know that you are there to run errands or help out. You might take her younger brother out to a movie or a basketball game or something to give her some time alone.
2007-02-20 04:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know other responders have written that you should just wait til she brings up the topic herself, but, personally, I think that you might want to bring up the subject yourself once. Sometimes when a tragedy occurs, one does not know which friends are willing or capable of dealing w/ you talking about and emoting about such a serious subject.
So maybe when you two are together, you could bring up the topic subtly. Something like "Do you want to talk about it?" If she says no, then don't push it, but just remind her that you're there if she ever needs to talk or if she needs you there for moral support at certain times... And if she does want to talk about it, just listen to her. Don't offer her any advice as to how she can get over the grieving more quickly or imply that you pity her; just really listen and say things that'll just show her how much you care for her.
Otherwise, make sure to call her often, see if she wants to hang out and do stuff that might take her mind off of the tragedy, even momentarily.
2007-02-20 04:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by whattodo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really cheer her up. It will take her time to get on with her life. She needs to grieve. The best thing to do is just be there for her and don't let her sit around home crying all the time.
Make sure she doesn't neglect her own needs and help her be supportive of her brother.
She'll thank you for it later.
2007-02-20 04:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by kiera70 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Treat her the same as you always have, the whole world will be acting different to her right now ... everything turned upside down... be a constant for her , be who you always have been and are. Let her talk to you about it if she wants too, but leave it up to her, carry on as usual and show her the way, show her life carrying on, sounds like she has a long painful road ahead, my sympathies to you and your friend.
2007-02-20 04:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by EGOman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard 4 ure friend right now. She needs to have time to rethink everything that has happen to her and needs to be strong for her family. So just be by her side and let time pass then take her out.
2007-02-20 04:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by 18forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't cheer her up. Just be there for her when she needs you and let time do the heeling.
2007-02-20 04:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a friend. People need time to grieve, let her. Just be there to listen and give her a hug.
She will need a friend and time.
2007-02-20 04:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the bass pro shop.
2007-02-20 04:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋