he lives out of town and my parents dont like him but is it the right thing to do?
2007-02-20 04:11:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You have a legal obligation to tell the father. Just clal him up and let him know, and then take it from there. I would also contact a lawyer about getting child support once the baby is born. The baby is legally entitled to it, and it is a criminal act for the father to refuse to pay it if the mother has custody of the baby.
2007-02-20 04:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by Episco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if your parents don't like him, he has a right to know if he's the father of your baby. And if he chooses to be a part of your baby's life (and I sincerely hope he does), your parents are simply going to have to get used to the fact that he's the father of their grandchild, like it or not.
As far as telling him, you can call him or write him to let him know. If you feel better telling him face-to-face, then call or write him and ask if him if there's a time you can both get together, either in the place he lives, the place you live, or somewhere in the middle. If you are worried about how he might react, then tell him over the phone or in writing--don't put yourself or the baby in danger for any reason.
Please let him know as soon as possible because the longer you wait, the harder it's going to be. Good luck!
2007-02-20 13:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by Southern Cat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, when your parents don't like a guy your dating, you should really take into consideration their point of view. I know that is not what you want to hear, neither did I. I am 21 and with an amazing guy that my parents love and our 1st baby is due in May. It wasn't always like that, before the guy I am with now, I was with some real LOSERS, but at the time I didn't see what everyone else saw, I thought I was in love, almost made the mistake of having a baby when I was 17, quitting school, and having a loser who was always in trouble with the law, dropped out of school, and had no job father this child?? I can't even imagine my life now had I stayed in that situation. My parents hated him and it hurt them to see me with him, and it used to pisss me off, why wouldn't they just leave me alone?? Now looking back on it, I am so glad I grew up and met such an wonderful guy who treats me like I deserve to be treated. The best advice I can give you is, really take into consideration what your parents are telling you, if they don't like this guy, they probably have good reason, if he lives out of town, how is that going to work out anyways?? Good Luck, and just remember whatever decision you make will effect your life for a very long time.
2007-02-20 12:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The father has a right to know regardless of whether your parents like him or not.
On how to tell him: call him up and just tell him
2007-02-20 12:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by mom2ace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a right to know. Call him up and tell him that you want to meet w/ him and tell him then. After you find out if you are pg for sure.
2007-02-20 12:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by jaschem728 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its your body you dont owe him nothing . but when the baby is born get a lawyer and get support from the guy .
2007-02-20 12:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by dan m 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋