Honestly i want you to tell me the truth!
say anything you want...because i know that this is wrong...
On Friday night i broke up with my ex...we were together for 3 months..and today (Tuesday) i am going out with someone else that will treat me better and not just like i am a figure in their life...i really like this person.....i dont care if you judge me but i need to know what people would view me....im very self concious so dont worry about hurting my feelings...thank you
Please be honest!
2007-02-20 04:04:20 · 23 answers · asked by *Hello* 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
yes, i am in high school...im a sophomore...and im 15
2007-02-20 04:14:16 · update #1
I would call you "normal". Three months really isn't long to have been dating someone else - I wouldn't have called it a serious relationship. And it's not uncommon to move quickly from a short relationship to dating someone else. If you weren't treated well by the last person you dated, I would even go so far as to call you "smart" for moving on.
Best of luck to you!
2007-02-20 04:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by ragmama210 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
3 months is not a long time for a relationship. Nor is it nearly enough time to get to know the person you are dating. And really...dating is for the purpose of marrying that person if you choose to do so later in life. With that comes responsibility of knowing how to keep up a household, clean, cook, take care of your spouse, any pets, any kids, keeping a job if you decide to take one on, all the while maintaining yourself.
At 15 you don't really know much about relationships, this is just the beginning. I'm assuming the new person you're dating is the same or around the same age. So right now all you, and this other person, are doing is toying with people's emotions. And because you are young still, there is that care-free attitude of dumping someone and a couple days later going out with another person. If you were older and did this...guys wouldn't have respect for you.
For now, all it is is "highschool" business. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with dating, but a lot of kids your age get so serious about it when they're not serious about it in the first place and then what ends up happening is people get their feelings hurt. Enjoy your youth. Have a good friendship with someone for now and see where it takes you in the future. There was a magnet on my mom's fridge. It said "Happiness is being married to your best friend".
2007-02-20 16:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by H.L.A. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly some people are going to judge you in a bad way because of this, but I understand I used to be in an abusive relationship and I met the love of my life while I was still with this other mean guy so if you honestly think that this guy is the one that is going to treat you the way you should be treated then don't worry about what other people say just as long as your happy that's all that matters!
2007-02-20 12:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by MELISSA 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am sure you are tired of hearing this but you are still too young to tie yourself down to a serious relationship you need to concentrate on having a good time with friends, going to parties, bowling, and especially dating etc. In my personal opinion you are not fully emotionally developed enough to choose your life partner until your 18-20's. So while it may be tough to move on so quickly you are doing just the right thing because even if you did get tied down now you would want it to be with someone that is good to you. Trust me you will want to be single in college!! Enjoy everything while you can.
2007-02-20 17:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to give the relationship time before you judge the other person's personality. just because you've seen them in past relationships doesn't mean that they will be the same. i wouldn't say you were a bad person for going out with someone so soon, but i think you should have waited a few more days. just wait a while in order to understand how the new guy will be. hope this helps and have a nice day.
2007-02-20 12:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First you really shouldn't care what others really think of you....it's all about how you feel about yourself.
Now with that being said....sounds like you are probably still in High School and that is just what happens while you are in high school. Also being in a "relationship" for 3 months isn't anything....definatley not a lifetime. When I was in high school it didn't matter how long I had been dating someone if I broke up with them and wanted to date someone else a few days later you bet your butt that is what I was doing....just like most other kids in high school.
2007-02-20 12:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by mom2ace 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I really don't think you did anything bad. You stated that this new guy treats you better. I look at it as you just weren't happy with your old boyfriend. You are young, and really, are too young to be in a serious relationship . Date. Enjoy high school. Who cares what other people think. If you weren't happy, you just weren't happy. So.....make yourself happy.
2007-02-20 21:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there look youre 15 years old .....am i suppostto suggest to you that you should have the man in youre life sorted out by now ???/of course not ,so what if you are going about with this lad and finish with him and 3/4 days later you are going out with someone else ......i would how ever be worried if you where having lots of sex here there and everywhere but i take it you are not doing that as that will get you into a lot of trouble .....enjoy youre life and do the right thing .....look after youre self and take care xx
2007-02-20 12:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You sound smart. You have moved on. You broke up with your ex. It's over. He'll get over it. Treat yourself to a good relationship now.
2007-02-22 13:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really dating is for preparing for marriage. Be young, stay single, have fun. You are no where close to being married. That is like buying brakes for a car at 11 years old.
Go out in groups and concentrate on life and fun and your teen years. You have your whole life to be old and married..
Good luck!
2007-02-20 14:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋