He is leaving on a snowmobile trip w/ his buddies. I will be home alone w/ my 4 yr old son. Could go into preterm labor and because of a previous surgery, I am having a planned csection. Am I asking too much that he does not take unnecessary trips away from home right now. I am not talking about going to work every day people!
2007-02-20 03:56:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think it sucks that he's leaving you to care for your very pregnant self and a 4 year old while he goes and has a blast with his buddies! What is it with these guys? My husband is doing the same thing, I keep telling him he's in "Baby Denial" What I think is going on is that they want to go out and enjoy whatever it is they can before the baby comes and takes it away from them. I seriously think he thinks the world as he knows it is going to evaporate and the new baby world will have no fun in it at all. You are so in the right for asking him to stay home, I think he'll realize the error of his ways after thinking about it for more than 20 seconds. Best Wishes!!
2007-02-20 07:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by krista_focus 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-09-29 09:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're absolutely right on this one.
If you don't feel comfortable being home without him for that long, he shouldn't go. You should let your doctor know about the planned trip and how it's making you feel and let him/her talk with you husband. If the doctor tells him that it's not a good idea, I'm sure he'll understand that he has to be there for you.
My husband had been going on a 3 day Jan. "guys weekend" with the same guys since he was a teenager and he cancelled it when I was pregnant with our first son (due Feb. 14 ...but not born until Mar. 10th *lol*) and I was upset about him missing it so I made the doctor tell him that my being upset about him not going was worse for me than him not being home was.. he only went because the doctor made him. Now, if I'd have had another child at home or if my pregnancy was a difficult one ... well, he'd have been staying home for sure :)
Best luck with this and congratulations
2007-02-20 04:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is no way my husband would take a trip this close to my due date. I am 32 weeks, and he would not be leaving town let alone the state!!! This is not safe...you are too pregnant to be taking care of a 4 year old on your own!!! Tell him...he should have scheduled this guys weekend a long long time ago when you first got PG...or he needs to wait until you are six months past this child!!!
I ask this question also...why does he get to go have fun when you are at home uncomfoartable at 34 weeks pregnant!!!! Not being mean...but there is no way in hell my hubby would be going anywhere!!!!
2007-02-20 04:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Six weeks to go? I think you are being selfish and self-centered. Looks like I'm alone in this opinion....but look at the gender gap will you!
Unless your home is in the remote wilderness inaccessable by emergency teams, you are overreacting. You have a phone, don't you?
Why are you trying to control him so much? Let him have some fun. Do you realize what an incredible stress puppy you are making him into right now. Send him off to have some fun!
Pregnant women make men psycho.....it's something hormonal....let him get away and blow off steam, or else you'll have a Scott Peterson on your hands.
2007-02-20 04:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by DJ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm 34 wks and husband not allowed to take any unnecessary trips at this time. He needs to be there for you and to help you out during this very uncomfortable time - especially since you have a 4 yr. old. I would try to explain it to him calmly and tell him how you feel.
2007-02-20 04:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by Ebbie 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't believe you are.
My fiance was going to have to be gone for the entire month of July for military training (I was due July 30, and ended up having her July 13th due to complications)... thankfully, he got out of it. But if he would purposefully choose to leave that close to my due date- regardless if it were scheduled or not- I think I'd be pretty upset.
Ultimately, it comes down to what's more important to him: going on this trip, or the possibility of missing out on his second child being born..? Yes, there's a chance nothing could happen and you go in on the day you're supposed to and have your C-section. But ask him which he'd regret more..? One little ski trip, or being there for his wife while she has a major surgery and meeting his child for the first time..?
Hopefully he makes the right choice. Best of luck!
2007-02-20 04:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by beccalynn14bb 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have been in the spot your in, pregnancy wise anyway, and I would not have wanted my hubby to go anywhere. If he feels he just has to is there someone who can come stay with you or is close by? In case you go into labor is there someone who can watch you 4 yr old? Talk to your hubby and tell him that you dont want to be alone. Good luck and God Bless!
Congrats!
2007-02-20 04:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by knight_janette 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think so. It is close enough he should be trying to make you as comfortable as possible.I think it is very important for a piece of mind and reduce stress that he stays. You just don't need this right now. On every soap opera or tv drama this would be the time the baby would come early.
2007-02-20 04:07:45 · answer #9 · answered by lee b 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
He must be 12 years old or awfully stupid if he doesn't want to be there for such a miracle. He can snowmobile anytime. He should be there for you at the very least. Their are people who would give everything they own to have babies and can't. Throw that in his immature ear.
2007-02-20 04:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by John A 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋