My boyfriend and I are wanting a child at this point in our lives, we are young(20 & 21) but both have our lives on track and think we are ready, but cant concieve....
2007-02-20 03:54:32 · 12 answers · asked by Heather O 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
We are young i understand that, we both have great jobs, and we rent a house (dont want to buy) i know being married should come first but we have talked about this, and dont feel this is what we want....i know its wierd lol but we just dont want to get married....right now anyway
2007-02-20 04:58:55 · update #1
Hello there..I`m married for 4 years.. i`m young too... 21 and my husband is 25... the moment you conceive your body is preparing for the baby... you are getting ready.. We are not actually ready until it happens... when it does... atomically u2 will be ready for everything.. So... No.. you are not young as long as you know what will change in your life... and you will have a family to take care... once you know that you can take care on your own..( you never know the future) you are ready!!! Good Luck
2007-02-20 05:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by ButterFlyAngel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought I was too young when I found out I was about to be a daddy but I thought about this.....
Back in the old times, people didn't wait to have kids when they were 30 and older. When you think that you're too young you're thinking with societies brain. F_U_C_K what society thinks. I'm in the military and I've been to Afghanistan. I'm only 20. If I'm not too young to take a life, then I'm not to young to give life. Neither are you. Babies are gifts from God. However it is better for you to get married you know (sinning and all) but a baby concieved in or outside of marriage is still a gift from God.
2007-02-20 14:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by meatreturns 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I was 20 when my husband and I got married (he was 22) and then I had our daughter when I was 21. you arent too young to have a baby but its just if you are ready some people that are 30 arent ready its different for everyone. and do you two plan on getting married? what happens if you have a baby then you split up? I would really think about it before you do theres alot involved with a baby ALOT!!! Think about the baby first not you.
2007-02-20 14:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to get married first....but obviously not required. By the time I was 21 I was very pregnant with my second child.
If you truly love eachother and your relationship is solid then there is no need to really wait. Give it some time you are young and fertility issues don't even come into play until after you have been actively(actively trying means recording basal body temps keeping track of cervical mucous ect) trying for at least 12 months.
2007-02-20 12:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by mom2ace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a child changes everything.. Are you guys plannning on getting married? Are you financially, physically, and emotionally stable? Are you ready to take on all the responsibilities of having a child? could you afford daycare, diapers, clothes, food, doctor visits, all your usual bills ect? Do you have a steady place? If yes then I would say you have what it takes to start a family...
Note: no one is ever really ready for a child and what it brings!
2007-02-20 13:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can i just say, it's not a crime to have a baby without being married. If you can financially and emotionally cope, then why not?
Being married doesn't necessarily give a child more stability.
2007-02-20 12:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be married first. do you have stable jobs? financially and emotionally ready? babies are a lifetime comitment. as you say you are too young. whats the rush? maybe wait a few years, get married and then see how you feel. it shouldnt be just a spur of the moment decision, its something that really need to be thought over throughly.
2007-02-20 12:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
personally i think you should wait... if you really do love each other what harm would waiting a while do? babies can be an emotional and financial drain,,, if you really think you will be together is time next year, then wait until this rime next year! i am not judging you i had my first child at twenty and with hind sight i wish i had waited. just enjoy being young and being together.
2007-02-20 12:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by hhutchie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things that should be accomplished before getting pregnant:
1. Marriage
2. Health insurance
3. Savings account
4. Have a mortgage
5. Financial plan for whether someone will stay home or way to pay for daycare after the baby is born.
If you don't have the things on this list, you are not prepared for a child. It is not okay to have to government pay for your pregnancy and birth, housing, food, and daycare expenses.
2007-02-20 12:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I would check with an OBGYN because your not to young to get pregnant.
2007-02-20 12:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋