2007-02-20 03:39:39 · 18 answers · asked by Donna B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hiya. I have the same situation. I miscarried in September and am now 11 weeks pregnant. I had my first scan on Monday and thankfully everything is ok. I did worry right up to having the scan and although we told family about it I didn't want a fuss and tried to play it down in a sense so that I didn't get too disapointed if it happened again. I feel totally relieved now I've seen the baby although there is still a little nagging doubt. Having a miscarriage first time does rob you of he enjoyment of being pregnant for the first three months which is horrible as you never get that back.
Try not to let it take over your life. I found making plans for the future helped. I booked a holiday for May, booked tickets for a play for two weeks time so you look forward to that event rather than being pre-occupied with the baby and it also made those two weeks pass quickly.
Good luck with everything.
2007-02-21 00:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u are not silly. i too had an early miscarriage and all through the early stages of this pregnancy i was the same. i relaxed after a while because the stress was doing me no good whatsoever, and i was worried I was gonna actually contribute to another miscarriage. If it helps, know that there is very little the mother can actually do, apart from the obvious (drink, drugs etc) to cause a miscarriage. It is usually a problem with the fetus and there is NOTHING anyone can do about that. So really, there is no point in worrying. Try to relax, I KNOW its hard but there really isn't anything else u can do. Good luck, Im sure u will be absolutely fine this time around.
2007-02-20 11:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was exactly the same as you, I lost my 1st in October 05 and I'm now 36 weeks pregnant with my 2nd, for the first 20 weeks or so until I could feel the baby moving around I was a complete wreck, I don't think any one can tell you not to worry as you will no matter what anyone says to you, just try to remember that lots of women have at least 1 miscarriage and go on to have healthy babies next time round and I'm sure things will work out just fine for you, xx
2007-02-20 12:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being silly. I had a miscarriage last year and it sent me for a loop de loop in my life. I never even anticipated that it could happen. I was depressed for 3 months. Then we started trying again and got depressed each time my cycle came. It finally took last July and I was on pins and needles. I had morning/all day sickness so bad. I made the decision to quit my job because of the long commute, stress at work, sickness all day, etc. I just wanted as little stress on my body as possible. To me if I knew I did everything possible to "keep" this pregnancy, if I should loose it again, I knew I did everything right. It hasn't been easy and hubby has had to work harder/longer hours, but we know in the end it will be worth it. I also knew that my baby time-clock was ticking and we didn't have that much time left to keep trying. Stay calm, and think positive.
2007-02-20 12:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ebbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
If it makes you feel better - I am also 5 weeks pregnant and scared to death of losing it. I have tried for 3 years to get pregnant and now that I am, I'm so scared for the worst. Please don't feel silly, it's natural to worry. It just makes you a good mom already!!! All the best to both of us but I do understand exactly how you feel!
2007-02-20 11:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Ohsooocute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r not bein silly i lost my first at 4 weeks 8 yrs ago, then nearly 5yrs ago i had my son then in october last yr i had a miscarriage in october i was 5 weeks gone but this was due to heart pills i was takin, i am now 6 weeks pregnant and have stopped takin my heart tablet to reduce risk of miscarriage. just take things slowly and u will be fine. ull both be fine.
2007-02-20 21:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do that to yourself,i felt the same after i lost one,it puts too much stress on you,my son was born perfectly healthy but i had a severe post-natal depression,probably all the worrying,think positive and take things day by day,live normally, miscarriages usually happen because theres something wrong with the baby,not because of what your'e doing,everything will be fine
goodluck
2007-02-20 11:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not being silly, having a miscarriage is a terrible thing to live through, just try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy, you should have a scan at around 12 weeks and this will put your mind at rest, good luck
2007-02-20 12:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by tracy w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not silly. It's a scary think to have a miscarriage, especially when it's your first pregnancy. My friend had a miscarriage 4 months ago and is not 10 weeks along. I'm sure it'll be fine, try not to stress too much. Miscarriages are very common, and it doesn't mean you are going to have another one.
2007-02-20 11:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl, I feel your pain. I had a mc at 10 weeks last time i was prego so now i am buggin! I am 7 weeks with this one and i think i will be fine, cuz last time i didnt even know i was prego until i had the mc. This time I know and I am taking good care of myself. Go for walks, I know it sounds dumb, but it will make you feel better, and its good for your baby. Take your vitamins, no smoking, no drinking, all that junk. Have fun with it!
2007-02-20 11:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by ~Kimberly~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋