I'm a guy & there's a friend (also a guy) whom I feel like I want to grow closer with.
What I feel is like, I want to be real close friends with him. The kind of friend who can share just absolutely anything with.
But I'm afraid I might be attracted to him in some way and I might be gay.
But I do like girls though. But now I'm just totally confused and I'm not sure about what I feel. And I'm starting to think that I'm bi.
So what do I really feel about him? Do I like him? Or is it really that I wanted to be just real close friends? I'm just not sure and confused...
2007-02-20 03:10:18 · 14 answers · asked by dark knight 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
So can we be really just real close friends or what?
2007-02-20 03:10:50 · update #1
go on the jerry springer show
2007-02-20 03:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you should totally be friends with him and figure out what your heart is trying to tell you. If you are afriad of being rejected then go slow. He might be into you to. I know there are a lot of websites that can better cater to people who dont know if they are bi or gay or straight or whatever and they have things like messages boards where people going throught the same thing can talk together about it. You should Google it I think it would help you a lot!! Good Luck!
2007-02-20 03:16:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like girls than you're not gay, but that doesn't mean you can't be close to your friend.
What you feel is, that friend of yours is "borther in spirit", so you feel very close to him. I think you can develop the deepest relationship with that kind of a friend, that's a type of friend books are written for. That's a type of friend worth giving your life to save his.
And all that doesn't mean you're gay, and the type of relationship you might have with him is not homosexual (unless of course you have sex).
That's just a guy with potentials to be BEST EVER friends with.
And you should continue looking for girls and spending time having sex with them. They are still much more beautiful than man :)
Well, that's my opinion at least.
2007-02-20 03:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by tomes12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey gal.. m sorry to say but u gotto know it.. Some ppl dont wana get into relationship cos either they might've had a bad experience n so neve wana get into another commitment, or may be he is juz lukin for one night stand, or may be he is takin time to think n decide if things could actually work out between you both. (NOTE: Most of the men prefer uncommitted relationships as they wana enjoy with many others before gettin settled with ya) If anythin wrong u feel abt me sayin this, curse n smile...Simple :-)
2016-05-23 22:40:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can be close friends and most of the time thats all we need is to have someone we trust to talk to. Your growing and your hormones are raging and this is very confusing for most anyone not just a man. You just need time to sort out your feelings, you may just be straight, everyone gets feelings confused when going through this stage of life. So don't worry yourself if you are gay or straight or bi, what does it matter right at this second. Get to know your friend, just talk and hang out and go out with girls and get to know them, you can have friends of both gendres and you will be able to sort out your feelings when you feel more secure about having a friend you can totally trust with your life. Don't worry about your sexuality at this point just enjoy your life and have fun, the answers you are looking for will come to you in time, i think you are just getting impatient with yourself and not giving yourself enough time to sort this out. You will know soon enough what your sexuality is, give your body time to sort things out too and in time you will know for sure and feel better about yourself and know what you really want. Take care Heather
2007-02-20 03:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of guys are close friends without being gay. Young people go through this type of mixed feelings all the time. And so what if you are Bi or gay.
2007-02-20 03:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force people to be close friends. These things just ARE. The more you hang out and have fun the more you'll get "close" (or about as close as two guys can). If you force it, its creepy and weird.
2007-02-20 03:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't read your mind or heart, but yes, it's possible to want to be close friends without being sexual. Or vice versa. Or both. Or neither.
2007-02-20 03:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You have a dilemma on your hands. You need to work through your sexual orientation feelings first. Because if you know what you like...then you can reveal yourself to those you're interested in.
2007-02-20 03:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can be good friends you dont have to get that close it wont add anything much its overrated like sex
2007-02-20 03:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by ladyluck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should becum real close friends wit him and then ask urself how u really feel for him and if u start to feel real strong for him then u like him. there is nothin wrong wit likeN both sex sumtimes it happens whenu least think about it. im lesbian and fron time 2 time i start feelin for guys again it just happens sumtime just take it step by step then see wat happens
2007-02-20 03:21:28 · answer #11 · answered by SunShine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋