i have been messing woth this boy since school started this year when he didn't ahve a girlfriend and now he back with his ex and he all ready go two kids and he 16 and tryied to get me pregant and i want his baby but now he pulling out be cause he don't want to hurt his girlfriend and he want me to get an abortion if i am pregant but i want my baby am i being selfish.
2007-02-20 02:51:04 · 21 answers · asked by miss2chi_town 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No...keep your baby...have it and then hit him for child support...let his current girlfriend know you were messing around him and talk to his parents too...he's gotta take some responsibilities
2007-02-20 02:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Curiously 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you need to find out if your pregnant. If your not, I advise you to wait, I was 17 when I had my daughter, and I thought I was ready, but I wasn't, and once you get pregnant your going to a have baby whether your ready or not, or you might make the choice to have an abortion, but it sounds like you don't want one. And if you are, some guys just aren't willing to take care of their children, and he already has 2 kids? He's 16, and guys at that age are really immature, he may not want the responsibility, and your not being selfish by wanting to keep your baby. but if you are pregnant, it's YOUR choice if your have an abortion or not, no one can make you. But I strongly urge you not to, because you would be killing another human being. A lot of people would say your not, that the baby is just a "fetus", but it's so much more than that, and anybody who would ask you to kill your baby, doesn't deserve to be a part of the baby's life. Take him to court for child support!!! He'll have to support the baby, whether he wants anything to do with with the baby or not. You don't have to click the link below, but if you have a weak stomach I suggest you not, but it's just showing you or anyone considering abortion just exactly what you'd be doing!!!!
2007-02-20 11:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you're 17. He already has 2 kids he probably cant take care of now. Why would u want a child with somebody who doesn't work and cant take care of you and the baby???? I understand where you're coming from. I wanted a baby at a Young age s well, but you have plenty of time for that. At least finish school. Having a baby isn't like a toy. Its a human being. You are being selfish. That baby didn't ask to be brought in this world to struggle. Common sense would have told you, if he's messing over his girlfriend now, what make you think he'll treat you any different??? Before you dig your own grave, think about this baby..Grown people struggle, young people can struggle even harder. What i think you're trying to do is trap him. You think he'll change if you have his baby. Real life doesnt work like that sweetie.
2007-02-20 10:59:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mizz Cutie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep your baby or have an abortion that is totally up to you. Your family should support you no matter what your decision. I was 19 when I had my baby and my husband was 20. You will have to work harder in life with a baby. It's not going to be easy, but then again nothing is. If you love this baby you can always keep it or give it up for adoption after you have it. I'm not real big on abortion, because of the emotional stress on you. You might regret giving up something wonderful that someone else or yourself could love. There is always adoption.
2007-02-20 11:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by carmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out if you are pregnant but in the meantime don't have sex with anyone especially not him. If you're not pregnant please don't put yourself at risk aymore for pregnancy or STDs (they're real). Sounds like you want to be with him but you'd always be the chick on the side as she's his no. 1 and he's a cheater. Why wouldn't he do the same to you? Do you know if he supports his children? Rearing children isn't cheap and can take a lot out of one. However many people don't have it easy but get it done. Love your baby (if he or she exists) and I hope that love will let you do what needs to be done. By the way, just because a man says or does things to get you pregnant doesn't mean he thinks highly of you ad wants to be with you forever. Let him go. Abortion is murder and I wouldn't do that and then there are physical and emotional scars. Don't do something to please him, he's defintely not doing that for you anyway. Don't allow him to take anymore away from you.
2007-02-20 15:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of this: could you still take care of the baby if you were alone? Its no joke!
Forget the child supprt, a 16 year old with 2 kids will not give you a penny!! If he is back with his girlfriend, he is not coming back to you either..
Hopefully you are not pregnant and got no STDs. just look at it as a good experience and dont have kids before you have a strong relationship..
2007-02-20 11:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by chameleonGA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well first just sit back and take a deep breath how old are you?..babies take alot out of you and if he was messing with you then he shouldnt have gone back to his ex with out breakin things off with you nor should he have tried to get you pregnant if he was going to leave u alone he already has 2 kids? that mean he has an attachment with that other girl (s) who has his children they will always be in his life always around do you want to deal with that?babies are hard work and it takes 2 but alotta time there are those very strong singel women i look up to who can tell the guy go screw and be the best parent they can be...what about adoption...please if you are pregnant llook at all your choice-Kristy
2007-02-20 11:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY VERY SELFISH !! If you really love the baby get rid of it. Because of the way your thinking is it shows that you are not mature. Re-read your question slowly and look at the errors. First of all, you and your boy friend are still kids. Second, if he has 2 kids that is a problem for him Trust me. Third, you are harming yourself by having a baby at this age with no education, no job and sorry for being harsh, but with your writing skill, you won't anything more than a minimum wage.
And last - having a baby to trap a guy FAILS 99.9 % of the time.
If he is back with the mother of his children that is wonderful. He should be with her.
Stop having sex till you have atleast finished college. I am harsh, but I am saying this for your own good.
2007-02-20 10:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by Centered 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wow, ok i am not going to judge all i am going to say is find out if you are pregnant for sure, and if you are no you are not being selfish by not wanting an abortion, you have the right to choose, i just hope you get a little more support, good luck.
2007-02-20 10:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by puppy love 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well all I can say was if u already new the situation wahy did u get involved but I understand love is blind all there is left to do is actually up to you if u want the child keep but if you don't well then don't. he cannot tell you what to do it is your body. Also he should of thought of the outcome and he should be more resposible for his actions!!! But its is your choice.... who cares if he chick finds out she should no the truth and maybe she also see how he actually is . good luck
2007-02-20 11:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by 04985426 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has two kids can you imagine what crotch rot he might have infested along the way. So far it sounds like 2 for sure girls unprotected and probably more so I would be more worried about STDs than being pregnant. Eww
2007-02-20 11:02:10 · answer #11 · answered by Melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋