He was abusive once, abusive twice and now that I am back with him I am afraid he will treat me bad again. He says he is trying his hardest and it's never good enough. I think I want to leave just because I can't trust him. Thanks.
2007-02-20 02:50:26 · 8 answers · asked by tina*21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He will not change my daughter is going through this very same thing and she has small kids her husband stalks her beats her and has been doing it since 2002 well she has finally had enough and back in November he was walking around with a knife in his hand around the house and went into the bathroom and was talking to himself scaring the sh** out of my daughter my daughter 4 year old son witnessed this she got her kids and left. Her husband moved out while she was gone when my daughter returned to her house she had one of her friends come over and stay cause she was scared her psychotic broke into her home the next morning beat her friend up and her she went and filed CDV charges against him and is in the process of getting an order of protection, and he is still stalking her i talked to her lastnight and she is in the process of moving into a house her husband showed up at this place and told her he wanted to see his kids and forced his way into her home in which she called the police, and they charged him with trespassing, so go figure he should have been charged for being in violation of his PR bond he was given after he got out of jail.So no he won't change MOVE FAR AWAY FROM HIM..before he kills you..her husband has been charged with cdv from her 2 other times and that is not even including the 1 charge that his own dad charged him with he went to ANGER MANAGEMENT BUT IT DID NO GOOD BECAUSE HE STILL BEAT MY DAUGHTER AFTER THAT.
2007-02-20 03:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, once a man is abusive he is always abusive. If he gets into therapy there is a chance over many years time that he could learn to control himself, but it is a long process and only a few men ever succeed.
You really need to end this relationship and look for a man who shows you respect. You need to find someone you can trust and who is gentle.
I was abused emotionally throughout my childhood and into my adulthood. My wife was physically and emotionally abused as a child and as an adult. We found each other when we finally realized that we both needed someone who is kind and gentle and respectful.
Take care,
Troy
2007-02-20 11:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask yourself if you're in a marrage where trust is a big issue should you be there. Also, after being abused twice would I want to even try a third, even if he TELLS me he's trying. Actions speak louder than words.
2007-02-20 10:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust and respect play a huge part in a happy relationship! I think he lacks respect for you. So in return you feel you cant trust him. Have more respect for yourself and find someone you can trust! Life can be so much better if you realize that you deserve a good man, and actually find one. The ball is in your court! Do you want to be happy in love?? Then go get it!!! dont sell yourself short!!!
2007-02-24 03:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by MEESH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your intuition, GET OUT. He has proven he is not going to change. Do you have family in the area, if so, will they help you? If not, check the yellow pages for help in your area. His behavior is probably not going to change without serious help and a decision on his part to get the help. You need to protect yourself and make a good choice about your safety and sanity. Good luck, I know it's not easy.
2007-02-20 10:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by MommyB 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you for asking... Well, you answered your own question dummy! Stop going back to him if you want him to stop abusing you... Abusive guys are abusive!
2007-02-20 10:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by sal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He beat you once, shame on him...he beat your twice, shame on you...trust is the foundation of any relationship...if you don't trust you have nothing. Why are you still with him?
2007-02-20 10:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by Mike M. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
follow your instinct if you can trust him whats the point of being together anyway
2007-02-20 10:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by user 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋