Why do girls want to look the smartest?

Question

in terms of clothing, makeup, jewellery, accesories etc.

Answer 1

Interesting that this is how you see it, especially as you are (unless your profile decieves me) a girl yourself.

While I think that the easy explaination - that girls have nothing more pressing to accomplish than accessorizing (spelling I know) the best, and fighting over what really amounts to petty issues (fashion, my hair is better than yours, etc) compared to guys; that is, guys try to get with girls with all their effort, so girls (even less attractive ones at younger ages) don't have to try hard to GET them, just sometimes KEEP them, thus they have a lot of time on their hands to get bored during hence the trivial pursuits - is rooted in a bit of fact, I find that the smartest girls (really the smartest) realize that these are useful pursuits because guys are attracted to useless, asthetically pleasing crap. Guys are - girls aren't (generally). Guys want a 'mate' - even if they aren't mating, dating or random play corresponds to this idea - who is relatively helpless, needing saving or direction, vulnerable and unassuming. A girl they percieve as only caring about stuff that they don't get, and won't help in anything in life that matters (it may help get THEM; its important that the guy not recognize this though) - like having over 20 pairs of shoes and 10 pairs of glasses of different styles and colors (it is easily apparent that these things will not land you a better college or job, or make your children healthier, or anything that REALLY matters; that's what I mean by 'useless' and 'trivial' and 'not mattering'...) - is a very naive, helpless, absurd though attractive girl, as far as they can tell, perfect for saving or making sure she doesn't make any REALLY dumb moves (men like playing the hero; what better way to make sure you'll have the chance than marrying a fake damsel in distress - if she was a real damsel in distress, like a heroine addict, then you might fail and men don't like their fantasies broken...) Since men love playing the hero, a girl overly concerned with stuff they can laugh off as unimportant (-who cares if you've gained about one single pound of fat? I'm your guy and I still think you're hot!) but SHE plays off that she really cares about like life and death, its easy to be the hero of that situation, the guy thinks he's great, ego boost, he feels needed even today when women are financially independent of men, and thus the woman of that sort is charming to him. Not so with woman. Women are attracted to efficiency - men who care too much about stupid stuff like sports or indeed, their personal appearances are just looked down upon as immature, 'girly', and other disparaging terms, because they're not being what is attractive to women. Just as guys aren't turned on by a woman who is loud and assertive, or women who can fight very well, or larger women even if they're just tall but not fat at all, women in turn are not attracted to quiet shy guys except as friends, guys who shirk from responsibility, or short guys. No woman loves the Starwars fanatic; plenty of men love the girl obsessed with "fairies" and has tinkerbell plastered on every window of her car. The woman interested in personal success in the workplace (and who is good at it) often comes to her large home and sleeps alone (or with her cats, which she buys by the dozen because instead of wanting to make herself happy by acting different while still doing well at work, she fancies herself a kindred spirit, and just like every other moronic woman of this sort sees cats as a symbol and representation of her independence and unpredictability), the rich and ruthless man who even drinks, is never there for his kids and has had 2 previous divorces for spousal abuse can go to any bar in America and find beautiful women willing to marry him. Yin and Yang I suppose. Humanity chases its tail, one gender to another. There are guys who really want to be macho, because it comes natural; then there are those who do it because they know that women want it, and since half the population wants it, the other half supports it as well, thus all of society appreciates macho behavior. (And guys who just don't do it anyway.) There are also girls who really do love that stuff, then girls who just pretend to because they know it will produce positive results for them if they "look the smartest." And girls who don't wear the makeup - oddly enough its both the nuns and the feminists in this category.

The details are above. The answer, though, to why girls want to look the smartest in terms of clothing, makeup, jewellery, accesories etc., is that this is what is appreciated from them. Its really a sick system that imposes roles upon us - you are a girl yes? Well I am a guy. We are put into this world and try to maneover to advantage. I'm going to skip a few steps here which i'm sure you can fill in; but in the end, if I saw you at a party, I'd size you up and decide if you were worth my attention and time; and as unfair as I can rationally say it is, if you were next to an equally "my type" of girl, before I said anything to either of you to find out who you were (thoughts, beliefs, humor, personality, etc.) I would go to the other girl if she had more "smart" as you put it accessories on. And so would every other guy. That is what girls see happen, and that is why they want to look the smartest - though, its not just guys; the "smartest" girl in these ways get the promotions, fastest pay increases, more social respect, they get away with more, get more perks, get better deals when buying a car from either a male or female salesperson, get more attention and generally even love itself - yes, even the feeling that should be based only on the person, is for sale, and the currency is the looks. We may 'want' helpless women, but when a girl really is helpless and really is clueless - ie she doesn't get the rules - we leave her to rot. Sad, but really think of it this way - we have only so much time here on earth; we can't just sacrifice our time and attention on someone we're not attracted to. Plus, we're busy. We're busy being the "strongest" - the guy's complement to what you're saying. We're trying to be the most clever, and efficient. Its a life and death struggle for us to beat the other guys, and why? Because love is far from free for us too. We too will be left to rot; and unlike the pity that goes out to women when they suffer, no one even cares when we hurt, which we do. After the pain and effort and stress we've gone through to be worthy of notice, I think its not that horrible that we leave the girls who don't do the same kind of things - though obviously the rules are different for the genders - to rot. And unless the guy's a wussie, he should understand when all the females leave him to rot - after all, they went through hell; they should get a hell of a man for it.

So you really can't blame anyone. Everyone wants to call the system uneven for their favor and then to call the system evil when that comes out not exactly true, but that's just our desire to make sure that we're never on the bottom of it. It's pointless though. It will always be there if we are. The best thing to do is to use it for your favor, try to be as kind as possible, help those (as I'm trying now) who ask for advice, and carry on to be the best we can so that the ones that we do pick who decide to pick us back to live our lives in close proximity with get their share. After all, they had to suffer so that we would favor them to begin with.

Hope this helps, and doesn't make you depressed or angry. Really it should give you hope - you don't get what's FAIR; you get what you DESERVE. So this means you have a hand in your success. Dig in!

Take care and good luck; maybe one day we'll meet and you can tell me what you think..

~

Answer 2

Coffeeshops, bookstores, farmer's markets, concerts, indie movies, museums etc... Your best bet might be mutual friends as in your buddy's sister's classmates and so on like that. Don't forget work connections either, not suggesting an office romance necessarily but there should be chances to meet women with similar education and interests as you. Just be yourself and eventually you will cross paths with the right girl for you.

Answer 3

Girls wana look Smart
Guys wanna Look Bulk...Is an Basic Instict of Human Beings...
Well u should not forget the Theory of Charles Darwin....
" Natural Selection"

Answer 4

hmmm...bcos
1.they are
2.bcos they r competitive,and want to look better than the other members of their sex
3.to attract boys,and to keep these boys
4.bcos u never know when u might bump into a
top fashion magazine editor/fashion designer/hollywood producer/other such person,get discovered,and become a top supermodel for /new face of the biggest brands ever or an accomplished movie (non only-adults-movies,i mean) actress overnight.
mainly though,bcos they are;)

Answer 5

So that guys come to talk to them.Let me tell you a secret when I look hot many guys of my office comes to me.If I look a bit dull or don't wear good dress ,Not only guys ,girls also avoid me......its true.
IT HURTS WHEN SOME IGNONE YOU.....
Same way you feel awesome when people want to talk to you....istn't.

Answer 6

Girls want to looooook smart bcoz by their smartness boys are attracted towards them.

Answer 7

girls are extremely competitive. plus we have been socialized into thinking that having the best clothes/ handbag/ shoes ect. means that we are the best and that we need them to be attractve.

Answer 8

To present themselves better among others

Answer 9

Girls are competitive and want to be the best in everything! thats how us girls are just are!

Answer 10

they want to have the best style in everything..and have a sense as they are in a competition

Answer 11

girls r born beautiful & should look the smartest. if they did not luk beautiful & smart then who would be?!