I'm tired of my co-workers talking behind my back. What do I do? Do I say something back or do I just ignore it. I've tried ignoring it, but I feel like I have to defend myself in a smart way. I know I wont get fired if I defend myself without the sup knowing. I wouldn't start a fight though, just say something back.
2007-02-20 02:35:29 · 14 answers · asked by ray91_91 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
confront them, tell them that if they have something to say about u, they should say it to ur face.
2007-02-20 02:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people talk about you behind your back because they do not have the guts to say it to your face. i've experienced this in a couple of my jobs too. don't feel bad, you are far from being the only one who deals with this. if you over hear someone talking about you then ask them what they are talking about. they are talking about you so you have the right to know. if it is something negative or demeaning then i would go to the boss. i would not confront them because people like this are very manipulative and vindictive and they could turn it around on you and get you into trouble. if talking to the boss does not help, then you may have the right as an employee to be able to file a complaint against the people who are doing this to you. you may want to do this anyway. i had to do this to a co-worker of mine when i worked in a childcare facility because they did not treat me or any of the kids with respect and did not provide the appropriate safety while they were in the care of our program. as a result, he was fired about a month afterwards. long story short, you have to stand up for yourself because on one else will. as long as you are doing your job then there is nothing negative that can happen to you. if by some chance that you do lose your job because of this, then you need to seek some legal advice because you should be able to sue them. this shouldn't happen to you but some companies do try to get rid of someone who complains. i hope this helps you out and things get better. good luck.
2007-02-20 02:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you ignore. Those ppl don't have the courage to say something to your face, so don't bother about them and make them feel like they're important or you really care about what they say !! let them talk !! as if it will change something.
2007-02-20 02:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that situation. All I did was went up to them and told them that if they have something to say about me then say it to my face instead of being childish and saying it behind my back. People do that because they are too much of a wimp to admit what they are saying to your face.
2007-02-20 02:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jesse's Girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is not something happens just to you only. most of the people face this situation. first make sure they are actually saying that. at times, its just with our minds. i mean, we will be having such kinds of inferior thoughts in us. and we often think others dont like us and all. so we just imagine them to be mocking us for everything they say. i'm not telling that it must be like this. but i'm telling u a possibility. if u are that sure about it, just think what makes them tell all those things about you. may be its just some minor things that u can easily solve by yourself. May be its about ur dressing, or may be its something about ur habits, behaviour.. hey, y dont u take it another sense.. may be this will just give u a platform to improve urself. getting all those unwanted things from u that they are making fun of. dont bother to tell anything to them. but just turn around and smile at them. make them know that u r hearing.. dont get angry with them. they will feel ashamed. meanwhile, figure out whats with u to make them tell that.. i'm sure u can do that.. get rid of that as early as possible.. Whatever happens, it happens for good... to make urself a better person.. All the best...
2007-02-20 02:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by ajay muralidharan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well punching a somebody in the throat does have negative affects. So you can either do something or not. If you don't do anything and act kind and nice then somebody is going to notice it. You can kill them with kindness. You could also stick up for yourself with witty jokes. Like= Your so ugly you made mr. clean throw up or your so fat when you stepped on the scale it said "please step out of the vehicle!" But one of the best things you can do is stand up for some one who is in your position!
2007-02-20 02:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by none 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't want to make you cry. There is obviously something wrong if you are such a target.
The mature thing is to move on and do your job, report it to your supervisor or quit. Don't sink to their level.
2007-02-20 02:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you can do confront your co workers and let them know you have something to say to my face??? than talking behind my back??? Not Men enough to say to me??? I want it stop, I do not like Back Stabbing and making bad jokes about me... Say it nice way and you did your part then go to your boss and let your boss know what going on and that you already told them about if plm with me can come talk to me face to face.. Nothign bad just tired of hearing rumors so then Your boss will keep an eye on them.. or they will have them in the office and telling them to stop and they might be going after you for making them looked bad...
Just prepared for that... like they will damage your car or do something to you or follow you to your home... but remember this you already told them and let boss know what going on... that very smart move... if they go over the line let your boss know that i know it them and damage my car or follow to my home or something.. let boss know and He will fire their A** fast...
Let your boss know that I try to let them know I don't like it and would like for them to come to my face and tell me... I won't get mad or look for fight... I'm tired of hearing from someone else... smiling.
2007-02-20 02:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just face them down and say, "If you have something to say, say it to my face. You're all a bunch of back-stabbing cowards." That ought to do it-- but you might want to say just the first sentence.
2007-02-20 02:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cool
2014-07-17 07:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first most are like on the web,s they dont have the guts to stand up an say it to your face, 2th i would go to them an face them with it,,an let the chip fall where they may,, now i dont beliveing starting a fight,, but if i came down to it, i do my best to put them in their place,,,some people feel big by putting other down,
2007-02-20 03:28:19 · answer #11 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋