She prevented communications between myself and the children which is one of the problems we had. When they are with me I always make their mother available to speak to. She did not allow that as well as other things as well which the court ruled in my favor. She never went to co parenting classes as directed by the court which is one of the reasons she lost the court battle. I have been to numerous counselors who altough have never met her tell me she has a definite personality disorder. They have spoken to her on the phone before. I feel a lot of compassion for my ex because of her problems. Many times I wish that she did not have this problem so we could still be married, I know I can not change her behavior and that only she can. My compassion makes it difficult to move on because I know some of the things she does she can not change without help. How can I just put her in the past and move on with my life?
2007-02-20 02:23:09 · 5 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes in life you have to make hard decisions, and occasionally do things that aren't easy. The answer is to make up your mind that you are emotionally detaching yourself from her, then do it.
No one says it's always easy. But try having some discipline.
2007-02-20 02:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling compassion is ok ....but you have children that you need to make a life for and really being they are a part of her it will be tough but emotions have to be put aside and create a mentally happy family for them... so i guess Im saying making your children your total focus...and down the road she may be able to be a part of their lives once again... and if the kids are like 6 or 7 and up you also might want to take the kids to a counselor too so they can get there emotions out about not having mom around... good luck
2007-02-20 10:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy. Look at your children and think of how their lives may be with the ex taking care of them and you out of the picture. Think of how better off the kids are that they can have a chance at a normal well life with a parent that has their BEST interest in mind. Doesn't the future look bright already?
2007-02-20 10:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the think of your children first. If your ex is unstable that isn't healthy for them, hopefully that would be enough to sway your compassion and do what's best for your kids.
It sounds like you genuinely care for your ex, but she needs help, and if she's not willing to get it, she needs to learn the hard way that you won't be there and you won't put your kids through it.
Best of luck
2007-02-20 10:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by Nichole D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She made her choices. Concentrate and stay focused on your kids. You're the only stable parent they have.
2007-02-20 10:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋