My friend came over and brought her new man with her, I was in my pajamas as were my children. I told her she should have called first, and another time. Now we are kinda argueing. Opinions????
2007-02-20 02:22:45 · 33 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thank you people :o)
2007-02-20 02:32:10 · update #1
You done great!
Dont give in or there will be no getting along with her after that...
2007-02-20 02:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Hartz4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I don't think what you did was wrong especially if you have kids and a life of your own.Your friend though is probably hurt and embarrassed that you made her leave in front of the guy she is seeing. Even though I think you were in the right maybe you should just say sorry to her at least about possibly embarrassing her so you can get over this fighting nonsense. If not give her some time and maybe she will see things your way. In the end if you want to save your friendship one of you two has to be the bigger person. You decide who that should be. Good luck!
2007-02-20 02:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, pass the popcorn, this IS like a film but not funny right? I do feel for you, this is a nightmare for anyone at any age, so don't beat yourself up about how you are handling it. I think you are right to feel anger at being a party to this deception and if 'Hayley ' and he are to become parents, they'd better start growing up and quickly! I feel your best hope is to suggest that you will be with 'Hayley' (and he too if possible ) when she confesses what is happening. If she can't or won't you may have to sacrifice both their friendships until the dust settles. At all events you will have to distance yourself from this mess as best you can, they have put you in an impossible position. Very sad all round.
2016-05-23 22:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Ellen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to tell her to come back another time. Since she didn't call!!! I had a neighbor who would just walk into my yard and ask to use our pool, until i we told her that it isn't polite to just invite herself over, she was mad for a few weeks but got over it. I think you just need to give your friend time to see that!! Try to set up another day to meet her new boyfriend, and tell her the honest truth, you didn't feel like entertaining in your pajamas, and a call first would have saved her any trouble!
2007-02-20 02:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by xopinkrose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I believe that you are in the right, it would be presumptuous to think that you would be available at the time that they decided to drop by. I would simply state that meeting your friends new Beau in your pajamas was probably not the first impression that you wanted to give. Also unless the new man is someone that she feels is THE man, then bringing him by to your house uninvited is at best, poor judgment. My advice would be to tell your friend to smarten up, if she wanted to introduced you to her new MAN then a more public place would have been more appropriate that at your front door.
2007-02-20 02:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by Cesar G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you were right. Just explain to her that she came at an awkward time. Also explain to her that while her presence is usually welcome, a phone call prior to arrival would have been appreciated, as it was getting late for the children and you were very busy with bedtime routines. Just let her know, that if she could just call before she shows up it would ensure that you could focus on her and give her the attention she deserves instead of trying to put the kids to bed. That way the fight is resolved and hopefully any hurt prides are put to rest.
2007-02-20 02:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have opened the door just a little bit. Then told her that you were having family night or putting the kids to bed. If she was taught an manners she would have called first especial if she had her NEW man with her which you hardly know to have him around your kids and in the middle of the night.
2007-02-20 02:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by Rosy Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set boundaries even with friends, if their "true" friends they will understand. No one wants to be interrupted while lounging around the house in their PJ's enjoying quiet time at home with their children, spouse or just alone time with a good book. Respect is the name of the game friends are no exception.
2007-02-20 02:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by whateverhohum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its kinda of childish to get mad over that but ur right this happens to me about 2 times a week it depends on tha time they come but if she a true friend she should have tha respect to call u ahead of time or somthing really if u have kids she could have made plans to met up wit u later or time time that fits u best maybe she was caught in tha moment of showin off her new friend an just did'nt think but don't this ruin a friendship just tell her let me know before comin forgive-n-forget its a simple mistake.
2007-02-20 02:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by tutragic07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on how it is said and how understanding your friend is. My girlfriend is sensitive, so I would never say that to her. I love it actually when they show up to surprise me :) Others opinions in this case do not matter it depends on why you told her to go away. In the future though have that conversation with her on that is one thing that bothers you..so please call before you come over. Its all about communication, so no feelings are hurt.
2007-02-27 08:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had that happen many times. I solved the problem by showing up unannounced at that same friends house. They never did it again.
2007-02-26 16:50:54 · answer #11 · answered by chicklette0008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋