do u ever feel like whats wrong with me ...Im 18 and i have never had a boyfriend by the looks of it never will,i cant study properly, the only things that i can do is shop and try and make myself look pretty but whats the point !!! I actually feel so unbelievable depressed does anyone know what im talking about ??
2007-02-20 01:56:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Happiness is like a butterfly. The harder you try and catch one, the more it will evade you. When you stop chasing it, it will fly over and land on your shoulder. Happiness is not looking for happiness.
2007-02-20 03:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i know exactly how it feels, it is because you look for answers in the wrong places. how shopping and trying to make yourself look pretty is working for you now? there's nothing wrong that ure trying to improve your looks, but ure doing it for the wrong reasons... you should do it for yourself and thats also why you should study. it's YOUR life that god granted to YOU. dont waste it trying to make it seem to appeal to others, because, sweetie, out there, there is someone that is perfect for you; because you are so precious and if people around you make u get the feeling that it is not true then they simply dont deserve you. you can be the best in everything just if u found the love for yourself in your heart. make a decision that starting from now you will try your best to be good at everything that you have, try to be the prettiest, the cleverst and above all the one that provides the greatest amount of love to yourself because that is just what u deserve. it's all in your hands. and always remember, that confidence and being yourself is the keys to attract descent boys, boys that are after your looks will end up hurting you. appreciate yourself and then others will start to feel the same towards you.
good luck
2007-02-20 11:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Claire don't worry you are not alone.
So many people your age feel this way. Just because you feel this way does not mean that things won't change soon.
My oldest Daughter used to tell me that she felt the same way. We talked about it for a long time. I kept telling her to be positive and wait till the right guy came along.
Today we are taking care of our grandson. He looks just like his daddy. The guy she found is as sweet as any guy I have ever meant. He treats her great and loves his son more that anything.
You are going to have a similar happy ending if you just be patient and let it happen.
Trust me.
Love and blessings Don
2007-02-20 10:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
someone will find you or you will find someone. shopping and getting new clothes and putting on more and more make up won't help things, they are just material things. People like it when others just be themselvs and it looks like you are not doing that at all. you don't have to try as hard, just be yourself and you will find someone. hope is not lost, you are ONLY 18, you aren't ALREADY 18.
2007-02-20 12:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shopping and trying to look pretty are a remarkably empty existence, as it seems you are discovering. Find something to do with your life that has more substance to it. Those who have survived near death experiences (died and come back, if you will) all seem to realize that we're here to learn as much as we can and love as much as we can. If you spend more time giving love than you do worrying about getting it, you'll find yourself getting all you need.
2007-02-20 10:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by Philo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may not be goodlooking but looking good is in your hands.
Whatever you do to look good just be confidant.
Moreover beauty doesn't matter. Its only outside look. Beauty is measured in terms of your character.
If you r realy good by your heart then don't worry about outside beauty.
There may be delay in getting a perfect partner but you will get real one.
2007-02-20 10:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by vinod 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ll give you one good advise: try to go out from the standard image of the fake girl that this society is trying to implement in every female,be yourself,dont be ashame to show it.remember that the power of your mind is stronger than anything else,but you can always add some little spices ;-)
2007-02-20 10:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get depressed, this will not help you at all. Go shopping, make yourself look pretty and then go out and flirt with guys. Be optimistic and you will find someone.
2007-02-20 10:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by mphermes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think people in their late teens are cursed with depression and that's what causes 20something year olds to be so serious about everything. It sounds perfectly normal to me and it will pass. Try to get plenty of exercise and that will help body, mind, and spirit...serious
2007-02-20 10:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by AuntTater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are looking and trying too hard, people can tell. Be yourself, and do what you enjoy doing, and chances are your prince charming will find you eventually and like you for who you are and not who you are trying to be.
Be yourself, and it will happen naturally.
2007-02-20 10:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by Your Favorite Writer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋