The best thing to do is just RELAX!! I know how difficult this is for many of you, as it was an issue with me at one point. I was constantly checking dates, scheduling sex, thinking about it and pretty much obsessing over it. I understand many may have their reasons to feel hurried with men overseas and biological clocks ticking. But seriously, us women really get frustrated every month after we have got our periods clocked like a science test with a failed result evrey month. It makes us scared and wonder if there is something wrong with our bodies. We stress and worry just making the problem even worse for the next month. Unless you have thyroid problems of PCOD you more than likely WILL concieve. I have BOTH and I have two beautiful boys. My doctor said I would probably never have kids and she was wrong..Their names are JC and Austin. Please, please just relax and leave all the guessing and worry for mother nature, our bodies were buildt to work for this purpose, even when we doubt
2007-02-20 01:50:08 · 8 answers · asked by Destiny 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
ourselves. Cave women didn't know all the information that we have now.. back then and the human race flourished. I know how frustrating it is especially for the more intelligent woman to see a teen pregnant of a woman that no morals to walk around with 5 kids by 5 different dads and wonder why it is so easy for them and so hard for you. The answer is that they weren't TRYING! It makes us doubt our bodies and worth as a woman. I can almost guarantee that if you all stop this cycle that 95% of you will become pregnant this year! I know it seems ridiculous, as science is supposed to be so accurate, but the truth in this is that science rarely takes into considerations of stress and human emotions, and there is a REAL mind and body connectin that many of us fail to realize. So take comfort in the fact it most likely WILL happen and enjoy yourselves! Calm down and make it a point to get back nto your normal routine, in the middle of the the month when your discharge looks like eggwhites ..
2007-02-20 02:01:17 · update #1
have sex and enjoy youself!
2007-02-20 02:01:49 · update #2
Melissa 1 ....I was you at one point in time too. I know it isn't easy to relax that is why I wrote this to help everyone. My doctors told me that I would NEVER have kids, as I had two medical condidtions working against it! Please trust me on this one. I have two kids now!
2007-02-20 03:11:43 · update #3
It's very true when someone tells you to just stop trying! My husband and I tried for almost 2 years for our first one. Then we just got fed up and made an appointment for a fertility Doctor. Well, we just stopped trying because we figured, " We're not going to get pregnant without some sort of help." So, we stopped obsessing over it and went to the fertility doctor. He performed an ultra sound and and a pregnancy test and informed us that we didn't need his help after all. I was already pregnant! So, my advice is, STOP TRYING! :-)
2007-02-20 02:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love this advice. Personally, i was that person a few months ago. Obsessing over if im able to get pregnant, is anything wrong with me, what if i cant have kids ect. ect...Im not pregnant yet, but i've heard time and time again to just RELAX and it will happen. I do hate seeing these women who are pregnant and really dont deserve to be. Or the women who dont want kids in the first place end up pregnant. My goal for this year is to just relax and let nature take its course.
2007-02-20 02:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mizz Cutie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sure is hard to relax when you have endomitriosis and you've had 1 miscarriage and then had to wait 8 plus months due to a deployment to Iraq and now that we're back together for the past 3 months and my husband is about to go away in April - missing yet ANOTHER opportunity to try.
It just plain sucks. Relax is good advice. However - its not the complete answer to baby-making for all of us.
2007-02-20 03:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by avioletsky 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was also told I couldn't have kids. I started working out and got in the best shape in my life and a month later I was prego. I had a hormonal imbalance and I believe exercise naturally balanced them. Also certain food and spices can have an influence for mom and dad.
2007-02-20 02:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by noey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing they can do is stop trying. It forces you to relax when you decide, eh, maybe in a year or two. Or in a couple months.
That worked for me. Took one cycle after I stopped trying. lol.
Its worked for many people I know.
2007-02-20 01:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People like you really piss me off. I'd like to see relaxing make my husband produce enough sperm to get me pregnant or fix my hormonal imbalances.
We've taken TTC breaks where we didn't even think about it...did we get pregnant? NO.
Relaxing is NOT THE ANSWER. No one should try to get pregnant year after year and just relax about it. It's stupid "advice" and doesn't fix ANY medical problems.
People that say this are rude and inconsiderate...next time you talk to an infertile woman keep this "advice" to yourself.
2007-02-21 02:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by scarlet_nightshade 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its not that easy to relax. i feel the people that say just relax it will happen had no problems concieving, so they really dont know what it is like, and what most go through month after month. for example, my mother thinks its the easiest thing in the world to get pregnant because she was able to so quickley with three of us, but not everyone is that lucky!!! thanks for your advise though!!
2007-02-20 02:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yep thats me, obsessing over it! MANY women have told me to relax..its hard! great advice though. :o)
2007-02-20 01:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by yesyesyes 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋