theres this guy and i'v been told he likes me. theres a little bit of an age difference(3 years: hes older) and we used to like text and stuff and his family used to tell me how he thinks im so pretty and about how much he likes me and all that but its been about 9 months now and he hasnt made one move at all. and i was starting to like him and he knew that. i thought he was going to get me at least something for valentines day but he didnt call, not a text...nothing. he keeps saying hes gonna take me out to a movie or out to eat or just to hang out but he doesnt ever call me. he went out to valentines day with some other girl and he was with her all weekend. should i ignor him because this has been going on long enough ?? and get over him?
2007-02-20 01:44:58 · 6 answers · asked by jessica_stay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This sounds tough, Jessica. It sounds like he's sending mixed messages. A good rule of thumb is this: When a guy is sending you mixed messages, pay attention to his actions and tune out the words. What do his actions show? It sounds like he wants to keep you on speed dial -- to have you there when he wants you -- but he doesn't really want to get into a relationship or face up to his feelings. Or maybe he's just immature and doesn't know what he wants. From what you said, it sounds like he's more trouble than he's worth. If I were you, I would take his actions as a clear sign of his intentions. Someone said once (sorry, I can't remember who), that when a man shows you who he really his, believe him. Life is too short to wait for a man to realize that you are worth his time. Good luck!!!
2007-02-20 01:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by LN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get over him. Don't waste your valuable time on someone who is just playing with your feelings. In 9 months if he hasn't given you a gift for your birthday, Christmas, or Valentine's Day, then you can safely say you should move on. He seems to be keeping you as some sort of back up in case things don't work out with other girls. Once you go your own way and find someone else, then he'll want to come out of the woodwork. It'll be too late by then cause you never know what you go til it's gone. And it's up to him to learn that the hard way.
2007-02-20 02:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you should probably get over him, I mean - if he really liked you he would go out with some other girl on Valentine's day... He prolly liked you and then when he saw you liked him back - didn't see it as a challege anymore because he got what he wanted or something... I really don't know I am just speaking from my own experience. Guys are so hard to understand, but then again - so are we.
don't get angry... don't let someone determine you attitude - just get over it. The grass is greener on the other side.
2007-02-20 01:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if he hasn't made a move by now he's a jerk who's playing with your feelings. Don't call or talk to him...you aren't there for his beck and call. You shouldn't be left waiting for when he is ready to call. Move on and find a guy you deserve.
2007-02-20 01:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by Lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~You should definitely leave him alone! if he really liked u he would show it! not just tell u! and if it took him this long and he still hasnt made a move then just find sum one else! I'm sure u can find sumone, theres a person for everyone!~
*sweetie*
2007-02-20 01:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by *sweetie* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What right do you have to be mad at him? He has no commitment to you and owes you nothing. If you are going to be mad, be mad at yourself for building expectations.
2007-02-20 02:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋