i have a brother-inlaw always wanna hug me not his wife.always compliments me even infront of his wife,s presents(sister).he knows its kills her but he tends to do it all the time....i hate it and he knows it bec when my husband is around he neva does it.had major argument with sister over this topic and i decided to break the tie 4 a while but i still see them under certain circumstances but he do it over and over.what 2 do?
2007-02-20 01:34:14 · 11 answers · asked by whitycat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would tell your husband and let him take care of it. and talk to your sister .and if your husband dont do anything about it then knock the jerk out cold
2007-02-20 01:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by ms01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have an open discussion with your husband, your brother in law and sister. Let your husband know that your brother in law has crossed lines and has made you feel uncomfortable. Your sister more than likely feels that you’re enjoying this because you’ve not said anything or done anything to get him to stop hugging and touching you. You need to let your brother in law and especially your husband and sister know that you do not welcome the advances. You should also put your brother in law in his place by advising him that the affections that he’s showing you, you don’t like them. You should also tell him point blank that you’re very offended by what he’s doing because he can show you affection but he’s not willing to show his own wife affection. Let him know that his phony affections aren’t welcomed in your direction because he’s being less than a man by miss treating your sister and using you to do so. Tell him that it will stop and that he is no longer welcomed to touch you and that goes for something as simple as a damn hand shake. Then explain to your sister that you’re sorry for how he’s been treating her and using you to do so. Let her know that you love her and that he shouldn’t be allowed to come between your relationship. I wish you the best.
2007-02-20 02:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister that you want her husband to stop hugging and touching you. Then with your husband at your side tell him to stop pawing at you. Make sure you tell your brother-in-law in front of as many people as possible, but tell your sister privately.
2007-02-20 01:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by littlemama_rules 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your husband to talk to him in front of your sister so she knows that it really bothers you. Just let them know how uncomfortable it makes you feel!!
2007-02-20 01:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop and mean it! If he still doesn't a kick to the groin or chop to the neck is appropriate. You've got to make him understand that no means no!
2007-02-20 01:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by janeannpat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Embarass him in front of the entire family. When he does something, snap and tell him that he needs to respect his wife more than to do something like that.
2007-02-20 01:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop and tell your husband also so he can beat some sense into him
2007-02-20 01:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to hug you or treat you like that and stop whining about it to other people. You have to stand up for yourself.
2007-02-20 01:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never leave your husband's side when you have to be around them.
2007-02-20 01:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop touching you. Tell him that his behavior is immature and it annoys you. Good luck.
2007-02-20 01:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋