Please Help Me ?????

Question

I got married recently and we don't want to have baby right now.(hope to have baby couple of years later), I really hate use condoms or pills my wife too. Is there is anyway I could stop my wife being get pregnent ?. I heard about natural way, that means if I could prevent having sex for certain day's. but I have no idae about this. if anyone can explain, I'll be really appreciate. thanks a lot for your answers.

Answer 1

I learned about that method growing up... my mother called it the rhythm method or catholic birth control (I am catholic, not being sarcastic it is what she refered to it as since the church did not believe/condone use of anything)
how it supposedly works: 2 weeks on, 2 weeks off? something like that.... the days safe were considered to be the days of and just one week after menses/period.....add to that, the withdraw "pull out" and I think that is all there is to that one? it is about 50% effective I believe.... ? but, ask a lot of women here? they will tell you they got pregnant during those times

I know you and your wife have this plan of when, how.. where you will be? but, sometimes life kind of gets in the way of our lives.....

you want an effective way? abstain.... again I am not trying to be sarcastic, mean in any way! it IS the ONLY way though.... how do I know?

I have endometrius (spelling is wrong but... ) condition that as a fourteen/fifteen yr old who did want a family (just a girl and boy.. after career set off.. etc) my doctor told me I would never (let's stress that NEVER) be able to get prenant..... IF by some slim chance of a miracle I did? he told me abort immediately... why? because carrying to term would kill me.... that was twenty-two/three years ago.... and I can still remember how I cried... no kids... no family... I got married... put "the dream" of my own away... my husband and I were going to adopt.. we still used birth control... due to other medical issues I was on the pill.... I got pregnant one month after we were married! surprise? I was elated.. I was scared... I decided I would not listen to the dr and carried to term... yes.. lots of complications... so what? she is fifteen now and the most beautiful lady around!! her sister is ten..... she is a spermicide/pill/condom baby.... I did lose my twins, they were condom only... was told it was due to my medical "issues" but? thirteen months later came a beautiful boy who was conceived while using yep, contraceptives, two of them! he is now 8....four pregnancies and three healthy beautiful children I was told could NEVER be... even without birth control... in just ten years of marraige!!

my second marraige, my husband asked me only two weeks before we were married if I would have a baby with him.... go off the pill, not use anything.... I said yes.. if he is sure..... on our honeymoon? the night we were married, we conceived! :) our fifth anniversary was 11/13/06 our daughter turns five mid-august! that was it.. no more..... oh, well.. again... contraceptives are only a percentage effective... and 100% is NOT it.... I said I just had my fifth anniversary remember... I have a three yr old... he was born day after xmas 2003..... he is condom baby! and my youngest born day after thanksgiving 2005? well, pill condom... a newer brand of pill that was supposed to be so good.... and yet? the dr. said the day of my 1st appt
(after looking it up) "you are the third one this month to turn up preg. on this one"

oh... I had pre-eclampsia, hypertension, gestational diabetes, pre-term labor, and have hemorraged with a few (that one was the closest to that whole "death" threat) so the dr. was right.... and it has been reconfirmed I should not be able to get pregnant... the contraceptives should just add to that.... and yet.........


22yr ago I had a future plan.... dr. squashed it.... I set up a new one.... college (got some, not all) travel (if you count grocery, clothing, school, dr? then I achieved it in spades) and then after I was married five to ten yrs I would have a baby/adopt a child.... hmmm.... my "plans" of my life? got changed again..... and seven pregnancies later? all I want to do is go HS to HS teaching/showing the teens why they should say "no, not till I am ready to be a mommy or daddy" <--to sex and marraige

you and your wife should by all means use whatever means there are... I am a fluke of what "could" but rarely happens.... they have so many forms these days... and her OBGYN, along with all the women on here, can give you many options of ones that would not interfer with either pleasure, sensations, or future planning...any form you and your wife are comfortable with is effective..... just keep in mind, they are not 100% no matter how many.. no matter what.... if a baby is going to happen? the odds can stack as high as you want against... it will still happen.... :)

I know I am an extreme.... I have heard the drs many times over... does not change the facts.... and it is important... any and all contraceptives are effective when used properly.... but none are or can ever be 100% I just want to inform you (and everyone with the same question)

I do hope this little (long) answer helps you out with rhythm method info, what works.....
sorry for the lecture.... if I bored you.... and especially sorry if I was of no help and just frustrated?
good luck

Answer 2

Well there are several things you can do, your wife should usually ovulate right after her period, these are your most important days you really need to be careful these days, you can use a spermicide, they also make these tiny thin films called VCF that you can find at Walmart for your wife to insert before sex and they dissolve so you don't have to worry about removing them.. You can also have your wife make an appointment with her Gynecologist to discuss other options... Check out the condom isle in the store there are products there that you can look into.

Answer 3

There are shots that can be given at the doctor's office as well as other forms of birth control then just pills.

After I had my first child I was put on a monthly shot - It worked wonders until I was told it was no longer available. I was then put on the depo which is once every 3 months. A lot more convenient really and also worked great.

Both of you should go in and see her GYN and discuss options that will work best for both of you.

Answer 4

There are some certain days but it's not 100% sure that your wife won't get pregnant.With me worked out.But i had very stable period circle every month and i was able to count the fertile days.
The doctors claim that these fertile days are the from the12th till the16th day.And you count right after yours wife period is over.But I am telling you again it's not working for everybody.The days from women to women may change.I think you souled ask a doctor also!

Answer 5

well, she is really fertile right close to her period and a couple days after her period.
If the pill and condoms are out of the question then I would suggest to pull out.
That is about the only thing left to do.

Answer 6

There is a methodology but pills would be the best idea. It's just a small pill everyday to make sure you dont have any unexpected pregnancies. The timing thing is not a sure thing.

Answer 7

Not very reliable. If you are not wanting kids for several years maybe check on other form of birth control like the IUD.

Answer 8

for one the myth of certain days bullcrap dont go by the shell wind up pregnant anyways use a pill if you just have sex she will wind up pregnant

Answer 9

what about the birth control patch? she just puts one on and doesn't have to worry about it for like 3 weeks it hink.

check it out on your own.

basically you got
condoms
the pill
the patch
spermicide (not real reliable)
pull out (not reliable at all)
or stuff like coils or tubes tied and that stuff is crazy.

Answer 10

Get her to get a coil fitted then you don't have to worry about it for 4 years.