Why do they say that when being myself hasn't go me results. I just wonder why they always say that.
2007-02-20 01:04:21 · 17 answers · asked by . 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I would be myself, but I've yet to make any solid friends. I only meet nerds. Maybe I'm a nerd too. It sucks.
2007-02-20 01:23:37 · update #1
If you be yourself and someone likes you, they like YOU. If they don't like you, then you know they don't like you.
If you put on a face and they like you, you will always wonder if it is the real you that they like. If they don't, you will always wonder if they would like the real you.
At the end of the day, being yourself may work, but putting on a face and pretending to be something you are not will never work, because you get trapped and suffocated behind it.
You say that being yourself hasn't got you results, but there is no reason to think that pretending to be something you aren't will get you results either.
Stay true to yourself. Your life will be so much easier and you can keep your self-respect and integrity.
2007-02-20 01:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In addition to "being yourself" you also have to be around people who appreciate that. Who appreciate you for you, and you appreciate them in return. If you are expecting to win the interests or social circles of people who don't mesh with you, then you need to find some other people to hang out with! What are your interests? Go do some things that excite or interest you and you will meet people who feel the same way.
Besides, the main reason why people say "be yourself" (or more so that it's more important to be you) is because there is ALWAYS going to be someone out there that doesn't like that (doesn't like you), no matter what you do. So, it's most important that you make yourself happy (though hopefully not at the expense of others either). Being yourself is still good advice because you shouldn't change for anyone, only for you if you want to (because that's the only way true change can stick). So it does work, just try it from a different perspective.
2007-02-20 09:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by Qui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being yourself has nothing to do with getting results from other people. Its for you to feel comfortable about who you are. Work on what kind of person you want to be...not what you think others want or expect. Getting results is a perception. You cant make people act a certain way or react to you a certain way. The only thing you have control over is you. work on that.
2007-02-20 09:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh... I think I told you those words a few minutes ago... ;)
Well, being yourself is best because it's more truthful than projecting a fake personality which might please others but is not really YOU. It's difficult to disagree with everybody, I know, but will it really make you happy that your friends don't like YOU but someone ELSE you're pretending to be? Do you really want to make friends with someone who doesn't like the person you are but the guy you project yourself to be? :)
Well, that's entirely my opinion.. but I really don't think you need to worry about being yourself on your first day. I can't imagine anyone can be so different that every single person in the class doesn't want to look at him. Be truthful about yourself and it will draw friends to you like bees to honey. Just be casual, that's it.
2007-02-20 09:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by beachblue99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being yourself is something that sooner or later people will see anyway,being someone else is not going to make you happy you would always have to pretend,if it isnt something or someone that would like you for you it would be a sham and couldnt last if they dont like you for who you are perhaps you need to find someone that appreciates you
2007-02-20 09:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they say that because you should not compare yourself to others or try to be someone you are not.take a chance and find your true skills and learn in what you want out of life just be you.
2007-02-20 09:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Elvis 109 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, not what you think yourself is. What do you really like, and would you really want whatever it is that they said it about if it doesn't work for the real you?
2007-02-20 09:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by megabraingeek 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If being yourself has not worked for you, it means you've not been patient enough.Being yourself means realising whom you are and what you do in accordance with your ability and conmviction.
2007-02-20 09:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by gabriel j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that means you are not doing it right but instead you are trying to want something that is not you, try to be satisfied is all it means and when you start to know your capabilities and limitations then you can do something to improve it and your limitations to be extended to a way that you will be happy and contented!
2007-02-20 09:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that because you are'nt supposed to be anyone eles and also that means to kind of step outside of your comfort zone.
2007-02-20 09:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋