I met a guy at a bar and we got attracted to each other. We went on a date and we kept messaging each other. Even after the date, he sent me a text message saying that he had fun and he wants to meet up with me in the weekend on sunday. I text messaged him a day ago, saying that I will have my rehearsal between 4 and 7. Other than that we can meet up any time. No answer. In the break, I called him and left a voice mail if we are still on. No answer until 10ish pm. Then he text messages me saying that "endedn up going to NYC with my roommate, call when I come back." What is this? Did I get stood up? If he calls me what can I tell him. I like him but my sunday totally got blown off. Please some advice. Note" I posted this question in regular singles and dating and I need a response from here too.
2007-02-20 00:55:18 · 16 answers · asked by joe b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You did not have a definite set time for a date I don't think you got stood up. But he should have sent you a message to confirm or let you know he made other plans. This type of inconsideration so early in the dating game is not a good sign of things to come. I think you would be better off not dating this guy.
2007-02-20 01:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by Spyder 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a critical time when you just meet someone for you or the other person to show you how "nice" they can be. (it always works like that), and if he stood you up, which he did, what else is gonna go wrong if you try and make something work. If there is a very good explanation like his phone got lost and he couldn't let you know where he was going, then it's different but he did text you back, that means he did have his phone and could have let you know earlier. Point: Don't bother move on.
2007-02-20 09:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by (",) JJ (,") 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with 'Your Gay Lord' answer. ( interesting screen name.) If you were completely 'blown off', you wouldn't have even had the 'NYC w/ the Roomie' message.
It doesn't sound like concrete plans were really made anyway. He mentioned he would like to meet up with you on Sunday-you said you responded only a day ago, which tells me you probably took a few days to respond-He went ahead and made other plans, can't say i don't blame him.
I would not even mention it if you are really interested. Maybe a friendly 'Sorry we missed each other this past Sunday" and thats it. Get on with what could become something quite special-you never know.
2007-02-20 09:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by Alohalani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think his roommate is more than just a "roommate".
Did you get stood-up? You'd better believe it.
Face it - the attraction was purely physical. You are lucky you found out early on about him. If he calls you, the operative word being "if", be polite, let him explain and then say good-bye because he isnt; for you.
2007-02-20 09:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
'I met a guy in a bar' should tell you something... BUT... you guys dont have any commitment to each other, dont put all your eggs in that basket. if you like him, commiunicate and see where it goes, but don't hold your breath waiting for him to get right back to you.... get out there and keep meeting people... (Did he call when he got back?) Does not sound to me like you guys made firm plans for Sunday, did you? He didn't blow you of if you did not set specific firm plans...
2007-02-20 09:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the book "He's Just Not That Into You" might be helpful for you to read. It may help you head off poor choices in the future
2007-02-20 09:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by gtahvfaith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was really digging you, he would have called sooner. You might be freaking him out, he could be a slow mover or his "roommate" is more than that...go with your gut feeling. Best wishes.
2007-02-20 12:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by a w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not sounds as in to you as you are in to him. When he gets back, talk about how you felt. If he blows you off, find someone else.
2007-02-20 10:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dwell on it too much until he has a chance to explain.
2007-02-20 09:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be to busy to remember...try to give him a chance.
2007-02-20 09:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by Crush06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋